For a number of reasons, FH and I haven't found a home church together. My mom has suggested that we ask my former youth pastor, who is now a senior pastor of a larger church, to come to town and officiate. I haven't spoken to him since early college years - before meeting FH - and it feels impersonal to ask him at this point.
However, my mom has a best friend who she has known since college. He and his wife have been at every major event in my life (his wife was even the first person to hold me other than Mom after I was born!). He is active in his own church, and is also just a calming, happy presence to have around who doesn't mind public speaking (and is quite good at it). I'd like to ask him to officiate our wedding but:
a) is it too much to ask a wedding guest to also perform a task in your wedding
b) how does one ask a family friend to officiate
c) how well should he know FH for that to be an option, and
d) should we offer to pay him to officiate the wedding?
Who have you all chosen to officiate your special day? It feels like a strange detail to have to think about 
