Picking my battles - mom is posting our "getting ready" photos...

It is a mother's pride in her daughter. I'd let her have it. Not worth the argument. In my opinion

I don’t know, I did not want getting ready pictures on the internet for public consumption. Not only were we without makeup, we were in bathrobes! I don’t want coworkers, employers, real estate agents and more stumbling upon those... so I asked that those were shared in a private photo share and not on Facebook. I think you should speak up if you feel uncomfortable.

She is just happy for you I would let it go

I don’t think someone should be allowed to post pictures of you without your consent so I think it’s understandable you’re asking her to take them down.

What Kelly said.

Ugh I totally get this! My mom posted everything! Like seriously "one week till my daughter is married." Everything. She posted photos of my RD. I also didn't want pictures shared. She added like 40+ photos that people took and sent to her. When we got our wedding photos back from the photographer, she posted SCREENSHOTS of the gallery. I paid like 2500 dollars for photos and she posted screenshots. I had told her that she could only post 3 photos because she had already posted so many anyway. I could tell she felt very sorry for herself lol. Then she goes and posts screenshots instead of waiting for me to send her the image. I told her to take it down. She complied.

Honestly, it's your life event. Not hers. If you don't want them up, ask her to take them down. Compromise by letting her post something else if you feel bad. I totally understand your frustration. I don't agree with others saying that it's out of pride and to let it go. In my mom's case, I can tell it's because everyone else does it. I have a different relationship with social media.

My mom was super excited to post too. Im not into posting and have gotten even less interested as I’ve gotten older. Lots of moms love Facebook, showing off to friends and relatives and just being overall proud of their kids. My line was when my mom tried to post our professional previews (we only had 5 pictures) before I had even sent them to anyone else or posted anything myself. I’d probably just roll with it- my mom posted some NON pro photos shortly after the wedding and a lot of her friends left very nice well wishes for us.

I totally understand where you are coming from. My mom posted on Facebook about

I totally understand where you are coming from. My mom posted on Facebook about us getting engaged before we did. I saw it and told my husband and be asked me to have her remove the post until we had a chance to announce our engagement ourselves. If you aren't comfortable with her sharing stuff then you need to speak up.

You’re right. It’s called respect. You asked her not to post anything and she did anyway. That’s a very selfish thing to do. If she really wanted to share some pictures, she should have asked. You could have approved a couple pictures at that point, which would have been the right thing to do. But since she didn’t ask and intentionally went behind your back and tried to hide the fact that she was posting pictures, well, I know I’d be livid. Even though I completely agree with you, remember that in the long run nothing she’s done is going to affect your marriage or happiness. Congratulations on your wedding.

I don't think it's a battle worth fighting. She's a mama showing off her daughter and her happiest moment. Allow her to show you off.

I would make a deal. Take down all those pics, and put nothing, nothing about your wedding on social media. And you will give her an album of real wedding pics she can show her friends and keep, in person. Or you will shut her off socially, and give her no wedding pictures. Because she has been sneaking around to invade your privacy and control of your wedding. And she knows it. She is wrong on this one. It is not right to use your life story and make it public, to satisfy her need to blab on social media.

I think that it's a battle that's worth it. Honestly I would maybe make her a photo album of the photos so she could show her friends in person but make the compromise of she can't post photos on social media. It's very rude to me, especially since you asked her not to..

Lol your mom is just happy, of course she wants to show off her daughter on her wedding day! I wouldn’t be mad, i feel like it’s bigger battles

It's disrespectful to your privacy and your desire to keep it off the internet. I'm the same way and I agree that it's strange she needs to post pictures she is not in. So many people need validation from the internet/other people for every little ongoing in their lives.

I don't think it's a battle you need to choose. It's a simple boundary you're asking to be respected.

View Quoted Comment This! Also, I feel like people who say it's your mom showing you off, are moms themselves. 🤣 Honestly, regardless of the relationship, respect and consideration should be shown!

Just because she's your mother doesn't mean she doesn't need to respect you. It's uncalled for to post pictures that you didn't want posted. We're doing an unplugged ceremony (mostly so that peoples' phones don't show up in our pictures) and I'm already stressed that people aren't going to listen. I know it seems vain, but I want to be able to post our pictures first since it's our wedding. Still trying to find a nice way to word that to people.

Anyways, sorry for my mini-rant! I think this is a battle worth choosing. Good luck!

My relationship with my mother is she can do no wrong. She sacrificed so much for me growing up that’s I would sacrifice anything for her now. In my opinion of posting pictures for her friends to see how proud of you she is makes her happy, they I would let it go. It’s not like she’s playing g pictures of you drunk that could ruin a career. Not a battle worth fighting.

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^^ Exactly this

Yeah, she really shouldn't be doing that without your permission. Even so, she *is* your mom and she's proud of you and wants to share her happiness. Maybe a compromise would be if you sit down with her and give her a few specific photos to share?