Picky bachelorette (party) please help

Stop feeding the bridezilla your time and money. She's being a spoiled brat, and her mom obviously enables her. Bachelorette parties aren't required or the norm even before covid. Even then, you're lucky if one of your loved ones decides to throw you any kind of bachelorette, but you don't get to pick what to do, the host does. I understand not going bar-hopping if she doesn't drink, but come on, you've suggested such a huge number of varying activities. You've been a great friend and seems like you've suggested a whole ton of things. I'm upset not ONLY with the fact that she's turned down everything but also HOW she said these things to you! That's so disrespectful.

Hugs from me. You're more patient than I would be.

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View Quoted Comment Agree! 😩 Thank you!

I can totally understand people not wanting to take off work or not having the money. It sounds like your friend is being very unreasonable in her demands and her mom isn't helping the situation either. It sounds like her mom has enabled her to be a spoiled brat and to throw a fit if she doesn't get exactly what she wants. It's time for her to grow up and realize she can't always have what she wants. That being said, what exactly does she think you'd even do at an Airbnb if she isn't interested in swimming or a sleepover? As for not wanting to drink, I get that. I don't drink so for my bachelorette party we went out to dinner then went bowling. It was so much fun! But it doesn't sound like something like this would satisfy her. At this point, I would tell her you've run out of ideas so unless she can be reasonable there won't be a bachelorette party.

What the heck? You've given so many wonderful suggestions. She sounds like a spoiled brat!

I'm sorry, but your friend sounds like a jerk. If I were you, I would tell her that since she shot down all of your suggestions, she's just not getting a bachelorette and let the chips fall where they may.

View Quoted Comment This. 💯 percent.


I would not spend $150 or two days of my time with that horrible bridezilla.
If me, I would tell her 2 days is out if the question for all the guests and budget is a factor, I’d resubmit the entire list of your ideas, and say if she’d like a bachelorette party because she shot down every idea she can create a list of 10 ideas or choose some from your original list (either morning for afternoon/evening—not all day). Or if she doesn’t want a bachelorette party that’s ok too. If she throws a hissy or complains in any way, I’d decline the MOH role. It might be a friendship ending move but this woman (and her mom) sound awful.
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View Quoted Comment I don't get why people think bachelorette parties are two days. It's different when you're at an agreement with your crew to take a trip.

View Quoted Comment I think these extreme bachelorette weekends are something movies and magazines are unreasonably promoted. Sometimes a bride’s “it’s all about me all weekend” expectations are really out of hand.

A bachelorette party is one night for a few hours max. It doesn't cost much either and $150 max per guest is more than generous. Since she has shot down all your ideas, I would skip the event and save your money because she would likely not appreciate anything. I would probably back out of the wedding too if she is that ungrateful.

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The majority of expectations for anything wedding related are the result of wedding tv/movies/magazines and have no basis in reality.

View Quoted Comment So true!


I didn’t have a bridal party but my mom & sister got ready with me. I thought about buying them robes for that “getting ready” photo you always see in magazines. With so much DIY, hubby & I were out of time & money. Plus I realized that would not even a framed photo so why bother? I have great photos with them where we’re all dolled up. That’s the better photo option. 👍

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That is an excellent idea!

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The mother has to be left out. She's ruining the experience. This is not about her or for her,it's for the bride. As her Bestfriend you have to do what you know if best for your friend and what will make her happy period. Leave no room for regrets.

View Quoted Comment I agree. She should be happy with what ever you put together. Bridesmaids don't have to plan anything all they have to do is show up to the wedding wearing the dress the bride picked. With how undeserving she is I'd probably skip the Bachelorette party.

She's insisting on a 2 day bach party? On top of that, she's shooting down your reasonable ideas in a very mean and ungrateful way. $150 is a lot for a party.


I am questioning why you are friends with her. If she doesn't like any of your ideas, she'll survive without a bach party. With her attitude, she'll end up alienating everyone before the wedding.

View Quoted Comment Yes I feel like a lot of people are calling it quits.

I don't drink, so my BP took me to Medieval Times. (They HAD wanted to do a Renn Faire weekend, but... *I* couldn't afford to take off work!)

At this point, if she's behaving like a petulant child... take her to the zoo.

YOU will all have fun, because a good zoo day is really quite fun... but maybe she'll get the message.

Hey! Im so sorry you're going through trying to find something she will like since shes so picky, that would make my head spin. I'm not sure where you're located, but does she enjoy theme parks? My bestfriend and her future husband have decided to have a wedding party trip and take both the bridesmaids and the groomsmen to Orlando to Universal for the weekend and I think its a great idea! Everything is pretty cheap considering how many people will be attending, and it could really be fun! She could wear cute bridal ears (I know universal isnt really Disney but who cares) and yall could get photos fromthe rides as memorabilia! Good luck! I really hope you find something that pleases her.