Picture disaster...

Long post warning, but I'm devastated...
(Also, not sure which discussion group)
My husband and I just got our pictures back from our wedding and to say we are disappointed would be a huge understatement. Our ceremony photos are so backlit that you can barely see what is going on in the picture, the pictures of the decore aren't in focus (what was supposed to be a picture of a centerpiece is focused on the leg of the chair under the table), we have family pictures where members of the family are cut out - some of the groups we don't have a complete shot of because of this, pictures of the bridal part arent symmetrical (or with the groomsmen, all have hands in pockets except one, or all jackets are buttoned except one, things like that... I don't feel like that should've been my husband's job to make sure everyone was the same).
We chose to have an "unplugged ceremony" so that our guests would be in the moment and not worried about taking pictures because we had a photographer... now we don't have any usable pictures of our ceremony.
Our photographer (who is the husband of a husband/wife team) was rude and unprofessional on our wedding day. I couldn't have a conversation with my girls or even my mom without him butting in. He called one of our groomsmen grungy/dirty, and said he looked like a bum, because of the beard he was growing out for his unborn child - the beard was well groomed for the wedding, but even if it wasn't, I don't believe he was in a position to comment about it. He also pulled me aside during the reception and told me to get more people on the dance floor bc the wedding his wife was shooting looked better, then proceeded to show my new husband and I video she sent him... which makes me wonder what he said about us... Plus many other incidents. We did not address this with the wife (who's the main photographer of the pair) immediately because we were going to let it go if the pictures came back decent, but they didn't... we have, maybe, 25 - out of 400+ pictures - to show people that we aren't completely embarrassed about the quality. My sister got better pictures of the decorations and people at the reception... on her phone and unedited!
Our package was supposed to include a mini engagement shoot that we were told we could use after the wedding instead if we'd rather. We told them we were no longer interested in this shoot and they are willing to give us $200 back...
As I said, I/we are completely devastated that we basically don't have any pictures from our wedding....
Sorry for the long post, I just needed to get all of that out somewhere! :-(