Planned a 2020 pregnancy?

My husband and I started trying to have a baby right after we got married which was in July, but I have been having some female issues so we haven't been successful. My mom and grandmother seem to think we should hold off on trying to have a baby right now because of everything going on. I had an appointment scheduled with my doctor for the beginning of April to go over blood work I had done and whether I should see a fertility specialist, but because of this virus I am now having a video conference with the doctor instead. We shall see what he has to say.

We have a consultation scheduled with a fertility specialist coming up. We planned to start trying in May or June, but that doesn't seem like the best idea at this point. I have pretty severe anxiety and working in healthcare during a pandemic seems to be a trigger, who would have thought? Not only will that stress make it more difficult to conceive, but I also want the experience of carrying our child to be fun and exciting, not terrifying. There's so little information available on how this virus can affect a pregnancy, it's not worth the risk to us.

View Quoted Comment If your doctor has any advice please relay the message! We just got married a week ago and we been planning for a years to start trying soon as we get married. We've talked about pregnancy, infants, and how to raise children all in detail! Lol We're 26/27, financially stable and communicate very well with each other. Everything is perfect aside from the Covid 19 panic. I can think of a hundred reasons to wait and hundred to continue with our plan so it's tough deciding.


One of our cons was that we may get dirty looks and comments for getting pregnant right now.
Good luck with the results and if you do need a specialist, hopefully that's the key to pregnancy 💕

I have several friends who are pregnant right now and they’re having to come up with plans that may include their husbands not being with them during labor and delivery or being away from their baby for weeks if they test positive for Covid-19. We had talked about trying this spring, but after seeing what my friends are currently going through I’m considering holding off for a few more months.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your point of view! We were suppose to start trying next week but not sure. I agree that I want to have a fun and exciting pregnancy. I've done my research and I'm not afraid of the virus itself. China has no negative cases with pregnant patients. All the babies came healthy. While there is little information, non I found is bad. If you did find something negative, I'd love it if you'd share the link! I'd be helpful to weigh our options. I am afraid of not having resources when needed nor do I want to be scolded for getting pregnant.


If things settle down, and you decide to proceed with the pendant, please let me know 💕

We were thinking about trying right now but I decided that it isn't the best time. I am unsure of what getting covid while pregnant would do to a child and that is scary. I'd rather wait and not spend the next several months in fear for my child and myself.

View Quoted Comment I did read that some doctors are allowing the mothers to decide if they want to be with their child or not if tested positive for Covid 19. That in itself is a tough decision. I didn't know that women may not have their husbands with them. When are your friends due dates? Could you tell me what their plan will look like without their husbands in the room? are any of them giving birth at a birth clinic? Is there any reason why other than husband may have Covid 19?

View Quoted Comment How long are you willing to wait before deciding you want to try again?

View Quoted Comment They are all (4) due between May and July. Their OBs want them to be prepared for the possibility that hospitals will begin prohibiting anyone not seeking medical treatment from entering the hospital. This could include the father for a laboring mother. They are currently all scheduled to give birth at a hospital but one of my friends (an RN at a local nursing home) has started reviewing her options for a birthing center. There aren’t many birthing centers near where I live though so it’s pretty limited.

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Thanks! It is definitely a personal decision. If you want to have a baby that is between you and your spouse. People are always going to have opinions on everything, but if you feel it is right that's all that matters.

View Quoted Comment Thank you that's helpful! Please let me know if you find out what your friend's option is at a birthing center. I imagine they would allow the father since it's not as high risk as a hospital.

View Quoted Comment You're right, it is a personal choice. I just couldn't help but think that I may be missing information that I or my husband haven't even thought of to research. And hearing from others has already given me new information to look in to. I wanna make sure I have all the information before making a decision based solely on fear, you know.

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I totally get it. It is best to be informed before making any kind of decision.

We got married in October are were planning to start the pregnancy process this October. At this point, we have no intentions on waiting or postponing.

We married a month ago and still have our appointment with my gyno next week. We will discuss options with her, but we were planning on trying over the summer.

View Quoted Comment I'm hopeful that things will be normal by October. If your plan was to start trying in April, do you think you'd postpone?

View Quoted Comment Let me know what your gyno suggests you two do and what your final decision will be. I am all up to date with my gyno and general doc as of January. All we gotta do is try now but you know 🤷🏽‍♀️

View Quoted Comment Probably. I’m 32 and my wife is 30. I plan to carry the babies, so I feel a small sense of urgency. Also, being in a same sex marriage, pregnancy takes a lot of planning and sometimes takes many attempts. So for those reasons, I don’t want to wait longer than absolutely necessary. We are only waiting until October because we wanted to fully enjoy a full year of marriage first 🤗!

I’m 15 weeks pregnant right now and while it’s definitely a scary time to be pregnant I’m just taking extra precautions and trying to focus on what I can control. Getting pregnant wasn’t a quick process for us so I’m very grateful to even be carrying a child and am cautiously hopeful things will be different by September. I wouldn’t put off trying if I were still in that position but I have read that doctors aren’t performing IUI or IVF right now so that’s something to think about.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for this! I needed to hear something optimistic. Will you be giving birth at a hospital or birthing clinic?