Planned a 2020 pregnancy?

View Quoted Comment That's definitely one of the possible issues to think about and it's definitely being thought about. I haven't finished my research yet but it seems like china has been on the decline as of two weeks ago so that's 3 months to reach their peak. The US is 3/4 weeks in so if it follows (and of course it may not) then things should be settling and be getting back to normal in about 2 months. Some women don't have the luxury to wait and Covid doesn't seem to particularly go for children and infants. Arguably, you'll never be able to gaurentee safety for your child from any sickness or serious accident. Yes we can take precautions and not conceiving is an option for that, but it's not that black and white for everyone. And if it is for you then you get to consider yourself either lucky or proud that everything in your life is otherwise in a well enough position.

View Quoted Comment Good luck and I hope your husband stays well. I'll be wishing for you to stay on schedule as well 🤞🤞🤞

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Absolutely! I agree each individual and/or couple need to weigh their options and do what they think is best. Even in ideal circumstances, life is highly unpredictable, it just seems a bit more so right now. Even when life returns to normal, I think -- based on a lot of reading -- it's going to be a "new normal." Not necessarily good or bad, just different. (And, I completely understand about the gray areas of family planning; it took us more than 8 yrs to have our "miracle baby." So, I agree that some stuff just can't really planned or predicted.) Good luck in your research and decision making!

View Quoted Comment Thank you, this was a helpful bases for more research on my part. 😊

View Quoted Comment I wouldn’t say this is true. Our hospital is allowing one birth partner and one parent for pediatric patients and end of life patients. The only hospital system I saw say no birth partner was in New York and they’ve already reversed that decision because the WHO disagreed with it. I have no idea how my prenatal care will be impacted but it seems that I will be able to have my husband as my birth partner when the time comes. But yes it’s a very scary time and things are changing every day!

View Quoted Comment The way I see it, if you wait for the *perfect* time, you’ll be waiting forever 🤷🏼‍♀️ Lol. If you take the necessary precautions and take care of yourself, you should be fine!

Hi all, I'm currently pregnant (conceived in January before coronavirus spread around the globe) and while it's a challenging time for us all, I don't feel like the current situation in the world should absolutely be prohibitive for anyone thinking about TTC. Pregnancy is different from everyone and experienced differently but it often isn't always "fun and exciting" it's also new, a little scary and challenging, regardless of world events. My husband and I have been self isolating and following all precautions to stay healthy and I feel like you can never know the future no matter what the present situation is!

So, bottom line: for anyone considering TTC right now, I'd say, you know yourself best. If you feel like you can handle the anxiety of our times while also being pregnant and experiencing lots of new sensations and floods of emotions then GO FOR IT!! I am doing prenatal yoga from home, cooking lots of nourishing foods, and taking long walks when possible. Life is filled with uncertainty and we are all along for the ride, holding our hope in one hand and the uncertainty in the other. Wishing you all the very very best!

View Quoted Comment One of our cons was that we may get dirty looks and comments for getting pregnant right now.


I read that to my FH and his response was NO, NO, NO. To hell with people who give you dirty looks or say you shouldn't start a family right now!!

View Quoted Comment We are getting married in September and have discussed waiting a year before trying for a baby. He's nearly 7 years older than me and I'll be 30 in May. We would be happy to be pregnant maybe late summer after our first year of marriage.


Best of luck!

View Quoted Comment 😆 Thanks. I decided to stop worrying and to have fun with it, I'm not gonna force TTC nor halt TTC. It will happen when it happens and I'm happy and satisfied with that.

Just wanted to update y’all because I saw my doctor today. My husband wasn’t allowed to come to our ultrasound appointment for safety reasons and my doctor told me I have to stop working. But he said within a few months we should be through the worst of it and things should be a lot better. He also reassured me that a lot of studies are showing babies are well protected from covid so that was good to hear. So beyond financial and economic reasons I don’t think the virus is a good reason to put off trying to get pregnant if that is something that is important to you!

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the update! That's good to hear!

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Thanks! Good luck to you as well!

It usually takes a long time to get pregnant, plus it's a good way to kill all the down time!

View Quoted Comment I work in a NICU. While most of the babies seem to be doing okay, we have seen young pregnant moms come in sick as can be, coding, crash deliveries etc. while pregnant you have weakened immune system so more susceptible to covid.

View Quoted Comment You said most of the babies are okay, can you elaborate on what is happening with the babies that aren't? Are the mothers pulling through?

Thank you for starting this thread. I agree its a very personal issue, and sharing with others going through something similar is probably better than just getting blanket advice from people who aren't living this horror themselves.

My FH and I planned to marry this spring, in hopes of trying for a baby sometime shortly after. We definitely want to be married first. We're in our mid-30s, and realistically I have about 18 months to conceive before having a biological child is off the table for me. Currently, we don't think we'll be able to have the wedding we planned, and we have not made a decision about what we will do. At first I was so upset about the possibility of moving the wedding because I felt like it would cut into our conception window, but now I realize even if we did get married first I'm not sure we could get access to quality pre-natal care and we have no idea what additional risks it would be for me or the baby if I got the virus while pregnant. So even if by some miracle we could have the wedding we wanted when we wanted, would we still want to start a family after with all of the uncertainty? Its unlikely that a vaccine will arrive before our fertility window closes.

One of my good friends is currently due Memorial Day weekend and right now her partner is still permitted at the birth but can no longer go with her to any of her doctor's appointments. I cannot imagine all of the challenges of pregnancy and then facing them alone and possibly giving birth without my FH there. I don't want to do it without him, and I don't want him to miss out on seeing his child born. I also worry about the risks to myself and our baby, and making a decision that has the possibility of leaving my FH a widower is gut wrenching.

Additionally neither of us feel particularly secure in our jobs right now due to the impact of Covid-19 on the economy and industries we work in.

We need to solve the dilemma of our wedding first, but after that this will be the thing that wakes me up in the middle of the night.

We basically got pregnant right away. I am due in July and I'm anxious about what's going on. As far as dangers to the fetus while pregnant, there isn't really anything to worry about. It's after the birth that I'm heartbroken over. My husband will be allowed in for the delivery and he can stay through my discharge (ATM). It's the rest of our family I'm sad about. Nobody can be around the baby if all of this is still going on and that's the hardest part.

View Quoted Comment I know exactly how you feel! Everything you're saying are the thoughts that have gone through my mind. I've done the best research I can do and hearing from all these woman has given me so much to think about. At first, my husband wanted to continue then he wanted to postpone for fear of not being there when the baby is born and fear of me getting sick. And at first, I wanted to postpone then conceive. So we talked and talked more, and we decided to continue. Our decision was based on several things. One is that our birth plan is to be at a birthing center so we know there would be less risk there. And we are open to midwifery and home birth if it comes down to it. We are cautious and will continue to be. If I get sick, we talked about how to deal with that based on the possible risks. And last but not least, Covid 19 or not, we will never be able to gaurentee safety or health of ourselves nor our children. We will take all and every precaution but don't want to put our lives on hold. I don't believe there is a right or wrong decision on TTC or postponing. As long as you and your spouse talk and talk until you both agree because of course you don't want there to be any resentment or I told you so's.
As far as the wedding. Our whole wedding changed in the 4 days before the event. It was stressful and my husband's family couldn't make it, but we both wanted to continue and we're both so extremely happy. Once you're up there saying your vows, it doesn't matter who wasn't there, that we weren't at our venue, or that half our table decor didn't make it there lol. It was all still perfect and blissful. We also streamed the ceremony for the ones who couldn't make it. My advice (not that you asked 😬) would be do not cancel your wedding no matter how much you think it's dwindling. If you truly love each other, you won't regret a thing. Plus we can always renew our vows and have a bigger celebration later on.

View Quoted Comment Is it because family was planning to visit or were you planning on the grandparents help till you get back to 100%? Because maybe one person can stay in house for a few weeks to help out instead of them coming back and forth?