Planning a wedding and having a baby or new born ?

I think it is all about making sure to manage your expectations and having them be in line with the finances you have. While the money it takes to have a baby can vary, you can find lots of estimates online to help start to plan a budget. From there, compare that with your family income/pre-existing bills and spending and see what is left. there might be enough for a wedding, or it might be tight. Either way, you can see where you are and make an educated decision. Its also early enough on you can start to save now.

I 100% am a firm believer in wedding planners, they are so worth they money, and can absolutely make sure you stay within your budget as well as help take away some of the duties you might not have time for with a baby (like vendor sourcing, creating timelines, reviewing contracts, etc)

Either way, good luck!

View Quoted Comment Thanks for being positive About it! A lot of my friends say wait until after you get married and they also kind of regretting not waiting,but we might have fertility issues,love kids and wanna be parents.

Well I am currently pregnant and due in March 2022 I am getting married on April 23rd 2022 its not too difficult but it depends on the pregnancy as far as budget spend what you can comfortably spend

Oh my gosh, I personally could not imagine planning and paying for a wedding while simultaneously taking care of and paying for a newborn. Newborns are incredibly expensive and time consuming. Depending on the type of wedding you want to have, they can also be incredibly expensive and time consuming. If you are afraid you may have fertility issues, I would schedule fertility testing ASAP and maybe think about pushing up the date of your wedding (especially since you have not committed to a venue yet). Being pregnant can cause all sorts of emotional rollercoasters that could make the wedding planning process extra stressful and miserable (for both you and FH). Many women also experience postpartum depression, which you definitely do not want to be going through on what is supposed to be one of the happiest events of your life. Also take into account the type of wedding you want to have. Are you going to want to drink and party at your wedding? Because you won’t be able to if you are pregnant. You won’t be able to if you have a baby either, unless you feel comfortable leaving that baby overnight with someone else. It will add another layer of planning you will have to take into consideration- Will the baby be with you when you are getting hair and make up done? Who will take care of the baby during the ceremony and reception? Asking relatives to take care of your child means they will not get to freely enjoy themselves at your wedding. Will you be taking a honeymoon? If so, will you be lugging a baby along with you? It is obviously up to you whether you would like to get pregnant prior to your wedding, but make sure you know going into it that it will definitely make things more stressful, both from a planning and financial perspective.
You say having a dream wedding is important to you. If getting pregnant quickly is also important to you, I would highly suggest bumping up the date of your wedding, so you do not end up sacrificing either thing. I’ve seen too many times brides get pregnant before their weddings, then end up cancelling them and going to the courthouse, or just having a very small affair instead of their dream wedding.

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Everyone has a different path! Whatever works for y'all and makes you both happy! I think as with anything in life, just prepare and be educated and make decisions off of that! My FH and I are going to start trying for kids about 3 months before our wedding. We are budgeting and have started putting away the estimated amount of money that we would spend on a baby each month into an account so that once we are pregnant our lifestyle wont have to change, plus we will have a small savings for nursery furniture and postpartum items

Without knowing details, I can't really advise on whether or not this is financially feasible for you. My wedding advice would be to have the fewest guests possible and plan from there. Being a mom, I can say that even going to a wedding with a newborn would have been so difficult, I couldn't imagine it being my own wedding.