I'm planning our wedding for May 2022. Other than having my dress and the deposit down on the location which is a restaurant who is taking care of food, alcohol, tables, chairs.....nothing else is planned. A childhood friend is ordained and marrying us and I am going for a low key dinner and cocktails vibe. 2021 has been a stressful one obviously for everyone since we are in a pandemic but we both have been dealing with a lot with our parents health. More so my fiancé's father. He recently had a stroke and has now been diagnosed with dementia. I feel torn on what to do. We live in Southern California but more inland and our wedding is an hour and a half away at the beach. The idea of not knowing what his health will be like come May makes me feel like I should eat my deposit, and have a small backyard family wedding. I am nervous to go full steam ahead and book a photographer, etc. and things get worse. Having a wedding without him there at all is really not something I could consider. My fiancé would be devastated and we would not be able to enjoy ourselves.
What would you do?