Does anyone have advice planning a wedding with a narcissistic mom?
She has made the process pretty unbearable. This looks like not wanting to include my fiancé's family in the planning process for the wedding but wanting to be overbearing about the rehearsal. Also being overly controlling about the guest list so that my fiancé's family doesn't overweigh the guests my parents are inviting.
She has told me I chose the wrong wedding dress, because it wasn't the one she wanted me in. She told me that because I picked my wedding dress, she gets to pick my rehearsal dress. She told me that if not all guests (aka their friends) are invited to our rehearsal dinner, she would host her own for them. She's told me in the heat of an argument that its her wedding and has reiterated that time and time again. She's threatened pulling the wedding completely, told me I shouldn't come to my own wedding, told me my fiancé's parents are rude, weird, inconsiderate, etc when they didn't do anything to her. When my fiancé's parents hosted an engagement party for us, all she could do afterwards was point out everything wrong with it, including my outfit choice. She gave me a pretty strict budget and keeps telling me that she's sorry she can't give me the wedding of my dreams like all my friends have (even though 1) she could and 2) I've never complained about the budget or asked for a grander wedding.)
The list goes on! And it's been stressful, it's been manageable since this is the mom I've had my whole life, just seemingly so much worse now that I'm getting married. However, I am starting to get really worried that she will sabotage and ruin my actual wedding on my actual wedding day and am wondering if I'm walking straight into something where it may be best for my fiancé and I to walk away from our wedding and just elope.