Planning conversations

I make a point of only talking about it if someone asks. I’m super excited about it but I know others would be thinking “is that all she talks about???” I’ve made plans to look for bridesmaids & mother of the groom dresses in November. Our colors are red, charcoal and cream- I want my bridesmaids to wear red & we’ll have more options around Xmas time. After that, I drop it.

I agree with Michelle - I got into a habit of only discussing it when asked about it, or if what I needed to discuss directly involved the people I was talking to (bridesmaids dresses, etc). Unfortunately, no one is typically more excited than the bride/groom to discuss wedding plans, and people sometimes feel burnt out if that's all they hear about. I'm sure that they are excited for you and are looking forward to your wedding! It might just be that they're overloaded from hearing about it. If you discuss wedding plans with your family/friends, also be sure to ask them about something (non-wedding related) going on in their lives.

Yea I always felt like I did too much wedding talk too but that’s why I love these forums because you can say however much you want ahah

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This right here. We want everyone to be excited as we are but at the end of the day they have their own lives to lead. I try to limit it too and share here my happy moments or frustrated ones. I agree with others unless they ask I do not share too much. Truthfully it is okay if they do not want to talk wedding talk all the time but this is a good platform to be able to discuss the happy moments.

If you have planning for over3-4 months already, you can pretty much count on most being tired of talking about. A brief bulletin : "the good news of last week and this is that FI nailed down the limo contract, and our schedule of volunteers. And my fittings and alterations on my dress are done, and I will now be looking at veils. Now let's put away the wedding planning. " Followed by a question showing you have an interest in their life too. Usually people have not lost all interest. A concise summary, not step by step, goes over best.

It's a really weird thing. Like the biggest moment for you and FH but everyone else. . . Is doing their own life.


I truly didn't know what to think when a lot of friends and family didn't show as much attention as I would've thought. But then no one else cares the 14 iterations of centerpieces they way you do.
So 1. Answer their questions when they ask but don't always lead with wedding this and wedding that and 2. Use this forum group for a lot of input, they'll listen and help!

I agree it’s a super weird spot to be in. This is such a huge thing and at least for me it’s all I think about and all I want to talk about. I have to remind myself that realistically while my family and friends love me and are excited, they more than likely don’t want to talk about it 24/7 like I do. It does suck feeling like people don’t care about something you’re so excited for, but it’s kind of understandable.