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Chiara
Beginner November 2026

Planning -engagement party

Chiara, on January 15, 2024 at 7:58 PM Posted in Planning 0 4
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I am the one making a surprise proposal and surprise engagement party. My question/concern- we have two close coworkers that are close to both me and my bf and then two that I haven’t met that are just close with him . I was made aware that the two people I don’t know want to be apart of the engagement party . However I know the golden rule is don’t invite people that you don’t want at the wedding and it just comes down to me specifically wanting a 40 ppl or under and keeping it financially stable and it’s not that I don’t want them but if I explain that I’d like them at the party just not to the wedding is that ok that just seems wrong and I just can’t extend my hand to everyone especially since he has a large family I only have my mom .

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Latest activity by Chiara, on January 16, 2024 at 7:04 PM
  • LM
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    Don't feel pressured to invite them, you have enough on your plate with proposing. Plus, if you do invite them, you'll just spend the 2 years finding more money to pay for their wedding seats out of politeness They actually committed the etiquette faux pas of asking for an invite and making it all awkward. Though I'm sure everyone's excited, first things first. Good luck.

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  • Chiara
    Beginner November 2026
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    I really appreciate it ! This made me feel much better
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    They were rude to ask for an invitation. Unfortunately, an invitation to an engagement party obligates you to send them a wedding invitation. That doesn't mean that you can't send them a wedding invitation later on if you decide that's what you want to do but you can't invite them to the engagement party and not the wedding later on.

    It would be impolite on your end to tell them that they can attend but that you are unable to have them at the wedding. Unless you socialize with these coworkers out of the office, I wouldn't invite them, though.

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  • Chiara
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    I agree I’ve never even met them before .
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