My fh and I are desperate and need advice on how to handle his parents! Thank you to anyone who has the time to help.
I have a long complicated history with his parents promising to pay his rent, utilities or food and then pulling out at the last minute so that I assume all financial costs. He is in an extremely rigorous program at one of the top schools for his industry in the world and has one more year left. One year they promised to pay his rent and then didn't pay for a whole year! I've covered at least 12k worth of costs they told me they would pay over our 8 yr relationship. Neither of us has ever been able to talk with them about it before they interrupt his and change the subject. They have two stable incomes, and enough money for his dad to spend $25k on model railroad accessories, and pay the rent and living costs of his older brother (they even bought him a house, and spent 4k on his wedding!)
Ffw to now. My single mom cannot help me pay for this wedding, and I knew that going in. I didn't expect my fh's parents to pay either. I don't make a lot of money, so I've planned a budget wedding. I have been working 12 hour days for months to cover the costs. They then told me they could contribute $1.5k, which I was grateful for. But for the last THREE months they've just bailed on his rent! They agreed to pay it! And they let me know last minute. They are inviting their extended family and friends, but so far the rent they owe me is way more than $1500! They know I am the only one paying for our wedding, they KNOW my mom cannot help us right now. I feel so taken advantage of! If they keep bailing on me I will not be able to afford our budget wedding, and I don't know how to tell them that.
What would you do? What should I do? I don't want to damage my relationship with them but I am so angry.