Please help! Guest list woes

Hey all! This may sound scattered I’m sorry just stressed! So I’ve been engaged for a year now. We started planning but stopped because of COVID and being unsure of what we want to do! We have been together 9 1/2 years now. We know we definitely want to get married in Puerto Rico. I’m just having the hardest time with making hard decisions! I am unfortunately a people pleaser and feel so guilty not inviting all of our friends and family. I want to keep this wedding on the cheaper side so I know I can’t invite everyone. I just don’t know who to weed out. I say only close friends and family but then that is still a lot of people between the two of us. Even the bare minimum is still about 60 people. I feel horrible but I don’t want to invite people with kids because I can’t afford their children! So my thought was only inviting our parents and close friends that would be in our wedding party. I would love to do a celebration back home with everyone that we couldn’t invite to our dream wedding but I’m not sure how I would go about that? I feel like I can’t have a bridal shower with all my friends if I’m not inviting them to the destination wedding. Having a destination wedding and then a celebration at home will still be expensive. Ugh. I voice my concerns to my fiancé and then he just says we will just having a wedding at home then. That’s not what I want I’m just so conflicted on what to do!