Please Help!!!! Honeymoon fund?

Thanks Rynni and AEWING!

Royal carribbean also has a honeymoon registry option.

We started out with no registry at all but I have some relatives from out of the country where it's customary to buy a gift. So it was set up a small "wish list" refgistry (pottery barn) or get nothing from some people. We got 85% checks/cash and about 12 gifts. It was actually nice getting some gifts and we didn't have to ask for cash.

I would not count on receiving enough money to fund a honeymoon you can't afford. It is likely you will, but not a guarantee. Last thing you want to do is start off your marriage struggling to make ends meet because you overextended yourselves.

Even with the registry some people may still give a gift as they feel it is the right thing to do.

That being said I put my registry information on my website and printed the website on the invite. I have to tell you though very few people even looked at the website. I think it has become more acceptable to put registry info into invites but I too still feel funny about it. People get their dander up when they feel a gift is expected.

In my experience most do give cash anyway as very few want to tote a gift to the wedding. My other suggestion is to have your people throw you a " honeymoon" themed shower. They could direct people to your registry. Liberty travel also has some type of registry to pay for honeymoons as well so you aren't locked into a cruise if it isn't what you want.

Just be tactful about it and you will be fine. If you are asking the correct way to ask, then you are concerned about doing things the right way and that makes all the difference with people. Good luck and do share more details about the honeymoon.

Rynni- and I do not mean this to be snarky at all... but whether you think it is acceptable or not, think of it this way. If you were invited to a Birthday party, and in the invitation was a note which stated "here is where you can buy me presents" would you be turned off? Because that is exactly what this is.

I get that you what to get what you want to get... but if you just don't register at all, people will understand and just give you cash. That or set up a honeyfund and make a website. The information will be listed on your shower invitation (which IS acceptable), and your family will tell people. I am all about breaking tradition, but honestly, think if you were on the other end of this... if you got an invitation and there was an insert with registry information, wouldn't it make you uncomfortable?

All the sites charge a fee, so you're not getting all of the money that the guest give. If you do not have a registry guest should get the idea that you only want cash.

If you cannot afford to take a honeymoon right after you get married, maybe you should take one at a later time instead of setting up a honey fund asking guests to fund your honeymoon. I've seen a lot of ladies on here who get married and take their honeymoon at a later time.

Good luck

We’ve been using The Honeymoon for about 9 years, They have an awesome site and provide you with a very tasteful way to ask with assistance with your honeymoon.

All honeymoon registries make their money one of two ways-they either keep a percentage of the contributions, or, they charge the person giving the gift a small transaction fee to cover things like website operations and credit card processing fees.

Do not register anywhere, and spread the word if someone asks that you do not need any "stuff".

It is common where I live for people to send registry information inside wedding invitations. Actually, I have never received an invitation that did not contain something regarding a registry. Because of this, we are just not going to do anything and hope for money. We will need new stuff, but I am a stickler for sales and coupons so I do not want to get pigeonholed into buying from one specific store.

I wouldn't worry about the old etiquette. We are including on one of the inserts for guest information our wedding website. Within the wedding website, they can read about our honey moon and view registries. We did a small retail registry and a honeyfund for a down payment on a house.

I would go with honeyfund. You can make a nice list of "registry". We are doing that. We are also planning to put a picture of us doing whatever it is they paid for in the thank you card so they know we used it for that and didnt just take the money.

I'm definitely going to include a registry card with my invitations. Do whatever you like!

Do what u like. It's your wedding. If these people really love and care about u and your husband anyway they'll go out their way to

Help u. Times are changing.