Please help with invite/program wording...

I'm leaving parents off especially since my FH and I are paying for the wedding entirely ourselves

“Together with their Families” might be a good alternative? Because your grandparents and father will definitely still be there in spirit!

View Quoted Comment Oh, I love this!! 👍
Thank you...

I would list yours as "in memory". Those who know you will know the situation but I wouldn't amplify it for the program. You said his parents are the only ones alive in attendance, so stick with that. It is ok to just list them as you did. It's courteous to list his parents but "in memory" is the only way I could see keeping it consistent.


Whomever is paying is moot.

View Quoted Comment You’re welcome! This is actually what we did for our invites because we thought listing names would just be too much.


Honestly, the only times I’ve seen parents’ names on the invites were if the bride’s family paid for most/all of the wedding. It would usually say “Ann and George Smith cordially invite you to the marriage of their daughter, Katherine Smith, to Eric Johnson, son of David and Mary Johnson.” So unless his parents are footing a large portion of the bill, I think this will be fine.

You can still do the “In Memory” of on the programs which is what we did for our grandparents and one of husband’s dogs. And obviously honored them in little ways throughout the wedding.

You can put your fiance as "son of Mr. and Mrs. X" and yourself as "daughter of the late Mr. Y". "Together with their families" also works.

You can definitely still put daughter of ______. They’re still your parents! Or “together with their families” if you don’t want to do that

We did together with their families, as I don't like the wording of the brides parents announcing it, it just is odd to me, especially when we are paying for over half of the wedding ourselves. You can always do a memorial section in your programs or a table set up! But maybe not on the invitations.

I like "together with their families". I think we're just doing our names, love our parents but we just don't want them on our invites lol

For invitations, you typically only mention parents/families that are helping financially. If you fiancé's parents are the only ones contributing financially (besides you two), then I would only name them. If no one is contributing financially, I would not name anymore. As far as the program, I like your "in memory of" idea.

View Quoted Comment We're paying ourselves. That helps...thank you!!