Plus one or no plus one?

If you're concerned about going over budget/money, do not include plus 1's.

No plus one! I didn't say no to most plus ones and ended up with a guest list of 180. We barely had time to see most of the people at our reception. Wish we would have said no and kept the numbers smaller.

My initial list had plus ones for all my single friends. I still have that list, but am paring back from it on a different spreadsheet. Those who live in town and know a bunch of other people aren't getting plus ones.

You have to extend invites to anyone who has a significant other at the time.

We chose not to give our truly single guests plus ones when we sent our invites this week, because like you we want our number as low as possible.

However.... keep in mind your guests who are single NOW may not be come June 2019. Shit; I had a 15 month engagement and like 80% of my people who were single then, aren't now. Make sure you have enough $ in your budget to accommodate any guests that may be seeing someone by then.

I too started out with all singles with a plus one. I cut them recently and feel so much better about the amount of space it freed up.

If they are truly single, no, you do not have to extend a plus one. However, if they are in a relationship at the time of invitation, you must invite them, by name.

I would say no plus ones for single friends who will know other people who will attend, but I would invite both members of a long term couple who are not engaged or married.

Holy.crap.. you have almost 2 damn years. You have no idea WHO will be in relationships then. You really can't say they will.not have a plua one now and them be engaged in 2 years and not invite their FH.

We only did plus 1's for our VIP's. So bridal party in our case since the only family was his mom (and her husband was an obvious named guest) and his nana who bought her aide. If we gave plus 1's to all single guests our guestlist would have almost doubled with strangers.

Originally we were getting married next November, due to medical issues (see older posts) so now I have to change up my list. I am looking at a totally new venue, which is going to cost a little more, but it's going to be the wedding my FH and I wanted. We are starting early so we can get it ready.

Don't worry about this now. Everyone's relationship status could change before. When you order RSVP cards (if you do) just make it really clear how many seats the person gets.

If all of your single friends know each other of someone there they will be fine with no plus ones. But it is way to early to decide you don't know who they will meet in two years! In the two years coming up to my wedding one of my best friends went from being in a long term relationship, to being single, to meeting his future wife (in my opinion). He hasn't asked her yet but I know he will at some point and I know she'd say yes. You never know what will happen!

We did plus ones for those in a relationship and for our wedding party. I offered a plus one to a close friend who has recently started dating a guy but she refused it because it is not serious and she said they are just having fun right now. But with your wedding out so far, I don't know how you can know who to invite or not to invite. So many variables could happen.

Not to hijack, but what if they get in a relationship AFTER invites go out?

I was told that not allowing single female guests (especially from out of town) was poor wedding etiquette. I never really thought much about it until it happened to me. A very close childhood friend of mine invited me to her out of state wedding, took a black sharpie and wrote in a number 1 on the rsvp. It really hurt my feeling since I had been in a relationship with the same guy for 4 years. Plus it looked tacky. Of course I decided not to go because I didn't want to travel alone and attend a wedding in which I didn't know anyone. It made me feel like she didn't want me there but she invited me just to say that she did knowing that I would let go alone. I would have much rather preferred not to be invited. Now that I am getting married, I decided not to invite her. But that is just my opinion/perspective.

I have the intention of inviting plus ones for ppls who are married or in a long term relationship.

Personally I think it's less stressful to include a plus 1 for everyone. I have been glad I accounted for plus ones for everyone because people's relationships have changed since I first drafted my guest list.

Edit: Also, I think many people are more comfortable bringing a date so it's nice to include the option for your guests.

@hannah I had a friend who was single when I sent out the invites and she met a guy she really likes and they moved very quickly without their relationship. I'm super close to her, so I told her if she wanted to bring her new BF that she could. They are coming and I'm excited she has someone special to share the evening with!

I would not allow a plus one for a guest who is single.

Technically, no, you don't have to invite a plus one for your single guests. I recommend allowing a plus one for single out of town guests though. And anyone who doesn't know the other guests.