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Just Said Yes February 2022

Plus One?

Casey, on November 30, 2021 at 10:40 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

One of my bridesmaids recently (last week) got out of her 4 year relationship, and I am not sure how to handle the plus one situation or if she'll even want to bring a date or friend (I highly doubt she'd get into a relationship in a few months anyways). I don't really want to talk to her about the situation of plus ones yet since it's still so raw.

I have my invites and calligrapher booked so when I bring it up I want to make sure I am being considerate of the situation, but I would like advice on if they need to be addressed to her and guest or not? The cost and space in the wedding isn't an issue, and honestly I wouldn't mind if she brought a date or just a friend, the issue is the rehearsal dinner. The rehearsal is only the wedding party with their plus ones (all married or in serious relationships) and immediate family, so it's a tight guest list and over $100 per plate. My FH and I are leaning to still extend a plus one for the wedding, but not rehearsal dinner since it's so intimate. Would it be rude to offer her a plus one but only for the wedding? Also the rehearsal dinner invitation is coming separately. Any advice is appreciated!! Smiley heart

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Latest activity by Casey, on December 1, 2021 at 8:53 PM
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    Dedicated January 2022
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    This depends on a few factors.
    Does your wedding require travel for her, or is it local? If local, that helps justify not giving a plus one at the rehearsal, although from my understanding rehearsal dinners also have the same plus one rules as the reception. If it requires travel, then absolutely I’d say offer a plus one for the rehearsal.
    Another big factor is whether she knows the other attendees well enough to be comfortable and enjoy the rehearsal dinner? Presumably she is making an effort in your honor, as well as a financial commitment as a bridesmaid so I think it’s a nice gesture to make her time as comfortable and enjoyable as possible by offering a plus one.
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  • devotedlydavis
    Expert March 2022
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    I second all of this.
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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
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    I also agree with all of this.
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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
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    I also agree with the others.
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  • Jessi
    Super October 2022
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    I assume you budgeted to have her 4 year ex at the rehearsal dinner? Since you're at most really going to be breaking even on that cost I would just let her have the plus one.

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    Just Said Yes February 2022
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    Thank you for the great advice! The rehearsal is in town and she lives about 10 minutes away, and the wedding is about 40 minutes away!
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