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Devoted September 2021

Plus ones for every single single guest?

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Rebecca, on March 3, 2020 at 7:29 AM

My mom called me yesterday absolutely furious because she’d gone onto our wedding website and randomly started putting different guest names in as if she were RSVP’ing and discovered that every single single person wasn’t given a plus one. My FH and I wanted a smaller wedding, around 100-120 people. Depending on regrets we may be around that number, but over 160 are invited. Her take on this is every single person without a significant other should be “allowed to bring a friend.” Like even my younger cousins (in college) who are coming with their parents, and my much older single aunts who have told me they plan on just coming with their kids. Any single people who wouldn’t know a bunch of people were given plus-ones, I just left out the people who I know are coming with their families. She told me I was “mean and judgmental about others” because of this and literally refused to talk to me because I’m such an awful person. Am I? Or am I within the realm of reasonable not giving each member of a family attending together a plus one when they’re not even in a relationship?

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Master May 2020
Kari · on October 24, 2020 at 7:26 PM
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What is rude is to expect a couple to pay for someone they don't know just so every guest is paired off. I hate plus ones, and before I met my husband I probably went to a nearly a dozen weddings solo, including weddings where I didn't know any other guests, and I was just fine.

Permit guests in committed relationships to bring their SO, even if you haven't met the other person before, and consider allowing plus ones if you have guests that won't know anyone else there, but other than that, send out single invites to single people. They'll survive, and if they feel like they can't get by without a date or a friend, they don't have to come.
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Mrs · on February 13, 2021 at 7:57 PM
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No only some ppl have a pulse one cause if I let that happen then Iam gonna be looking at 220 guess
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Samantha · on February 13, 2021 at 8:05 PM
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I gave plus ones to anyone I though would prefer to bring someone. That said -college kids coming with family? Heck no.
Does your mom get mad like this often or did this particular issue trigger something?
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Tina · on February 16, 2021 at 10:00 PM
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I don’t have any intention of giving an invite to everyone single to bring someone that only will know one person there. I get what she implying it’s funny to come alone. If I was invited and said come with someone then wasn’t dating anyone I would feel funny. My cousin is dating someone honestly I never seen her and I don’t want her there like why it’s maybe a year but he dated someone for longer and she was all nice till she was clingy so yeah no. I feel like if they engaged then yes otherwise no. That’s just me.
If I was guest to someone to a wedding how can I give them a gift don’t know them for a nutshell. Lol
My singles know each other so they know each other.
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