Plus Ones On Party Bus?

They should definitely come considering it's such a long gap.

I think it would be rude if you only allowed a few of your BPs +1s and not all of them to come with. Especially if the people you would leave out don’t know anyone that they can spend that 3 hour gap with. Speaking as someone who has been to multiple weddings where FH has been a groomsman and left me for hours at a time, it’s not fun and I would be mad if some people were invited but I wasn’t.

Please don't only invite some. My brother did this for their wedding where I was a bridesmaid. They didn't make sure the party bus was even big enough for everyone. As a result, my boyfriend (now fiancé) and 2 groomsmens wives could not be on the bus, while everyone else had their significant other with them. The entire time all of the couples were having a great time while the 3 of us just sat by each other. It made for a very long gap.

I would invite everyone with their plus one. I figure what's a few more people but to add to the fun? My now fiance was allowed to come with the wedding party for my sister's wedding. It was not a big deal.

Yeah I completely agree you should invite everyone if you are inviting 1. I think my fiance's fear is that people will not be as focused on getting good photos and celebrating "us," because they will all have plus one's to party with. He also thinks the plus one's will be bored or drink all of the beer while we are taking photos, which I know is a silly fear. This is the only topic we disagree about..

I would let them all on, I think it'd be weird to let one groomsmen's girlfriend on but not another.

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Right. It's moreso people just inviting friends as plus one's and stuff like that. Especially when their plus one's live in town, have tons of other friends in the area, etc.

****% do it!

I just got married a few weeks ago and we had a bridal party of 7 bridesmaids and 7 groomsmen! We had a two hour gap for pictures and took a party bus from the church to the picture location and then to the reception (along with some extra cruising around the city to get our money's worth). We included everyone's plus ones & honestly it was one of my favorite parts of the entire day! Everyone absolutely LOVED it and they're still raving about it today!

Everyone's dates got to know each other really well on the bus, which was perfect because all the plus one's sat together for dinner while the bridal party was at the head table. So I absolutely recommend doing it and inviting everyone's dates, serious relationship or not!

Hi Sarah! Welcome to the WeddingWire Community! I think allowing the additional plus ones would be a great idea especially since some might be new to the area and not know anyone else! Out of curiosity, are you having a cocktail hour within this gap?

Definitely include the plus ones, it’d be rude to exclude them from the fun. Otherwise what else would they do, sit by themselves in the hotel room? No thanks.

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No we aren't. Well the reception will begin at 5. We will probably do our "entrance" at 5:30. Unfortunately, there isn't anything we can do about the gap...just how the Catholic church wedding works. We did create a "things to do card" for people, and the hotel is right next to the venue so I figure a lot of people will go to their rooms or go home to freshen up.

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Those that know the area and have friends around the area wouldn't be sitting in the hotel room. But I will take everyone's advice into consideration.

Include all plus ones, IMO. I was a plus one on a party bus and it was still awesome!

View Quoted Comment Well, I was referring to the out of towner ones you mentioned. But I agree with the masses (and you!)— I think it’s an all or none situation (and I def think the travelers should be included).
Do you know FH’s reasoning for not wanting to include hem?

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He wants it to be a more intimate and special thing with just the bridal party. Which I can understand. My sister (MOH) and a couple other bridesmaids all have really close male friends who they are bringing as plus ones...my FH and I aren't very close to them and when they all get together they kind of tune everyone else out and can be a little obnoxious frankly. So I think he wants to avoid that entire situation, which like I said would include 2-3 plus ones. But he does understand we need to make exceptions for out of town plus ones, which would be all the others.

I say invite them all. We are. I’ve been the plus one in this situation before and wasn’t invited. It felt very awkward. Also, showing up to the reception when your date has already had a blast and a few drinks makes you feel like you’re not welcome.

Why would any plus ones be invited if this is for your wedding photos? Do you plan on having your bridal party and their partners in your 'formal' photos? I think this is one of those cases where you can just have your bridal party and no one else.

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This sounds awesome Sarah! You have a great plan laid out!!