Plus ones vs significant others

Everyone on our guest list over 18 is getting a plus one but if they are in a serious relationship and we know the person's name the invites will be addressed with both full names if not it will be and Jamie Blahblah and guest. If you can afford it it is nice to offer a plus ones, weddings can be hard on people but it s not always feasible. Whatever you do try to be consistent with your decision. Good luck!!

For both our big wedding originally planned and the small wedding we ended up having, all guests with partners were invited as a couple.

Had we had the big wedding we initially planned, only 2 people would have gotten "plus ones" (to invite whoever) being out-of-towners who didn't know anyone locally.

We didn't do any +1s, but for everyone in a serious relationship, which we defined as either living together or dating for at least a year, got addressed with their significant other. We are at our venue's capacity limit, and it didn't make sense to us to give people +1s if we knew they were single or were in a relatively new relationship.

I went to a wedding where the bride and groom gave no +1s to anybody, but then some people convinced them to give them +1s when they just started dating someone. I was dating my now fiance for almost a year at that point and was fine with not getting a plus one, but I was furious that my friend didn't get a +1 when she was dating a guy for almost five years. I think as long as your consistent people will be more understanding, but if you give exceptions, I think that's where people would have the most issues.

Honestly everyone is going to give me grief for this but i picked and chose. if i gave EVERY person a plus one omg that would have been so many more tables i couldn't afford. and so many people say "then budget more money or cut your guest list where you CAN allow the plus ones to accommodate them" i feel like that's so much easier said than done. i already had 250 people at my wedding - i already had a very large wedding and it was already capped at what i was comfortable spending.

if you were married then i for sure invited the spouse. otherwise everyone else i only gave the plus one to if you legit didn't know anyone else there at all. i have groups of friends and then i have individual friends who seriously didn't know anyone else. sure it sounds unfair but my friends understood it was a space issue i had.

We're planning to address our invites to married couples, engaged couples, and couples we know are dating by name. Anyone who's single at the time we order invites will be addressed as "Person and Guest." We don't have too many single friends, and our families aren't that big where the guest list got out of control, so extending +1s wasn't much of an issue. Plus I'm sure with a lot of our guests being from out of state we won't have 100% of our list in attendance, so the budget/ venue space should be more than able to accommodate everyone.

Agreed! And we did what Cece did. If we knew they had a partner, the partner was invited, by name. If they did not have a partner, they were not given a plus one. If they'd started dating someone shortly before invites went out, we would have asked if they wanted to invite said partner - but this didn't happen in the 18 months of planning and additional 6 months of covid delay! One couple split up, and the partner declined, but that was all.

Almost of our interstate guests were in a relationship so were invited as a social unit/pair, but I think if we'd had any single interstaters who didn't know anyone else, we'd have asked if they wanted a plus-one. As it was, I think there might have been one or two interstate cousins of my now-husband that came without plus-ones, but they probably knew the majority of the guests better than I did since we had a LOT of family coming, so it wasn't like they were by themselves and complete strangers to the majority of the attendees or anything.

All couples whether married, engaged, or dating are addressed by name. Any plus ones I gave out are to guests of honor like my brother who is no longer with his girlfriend but he brought his best friend to my sisters wedding when he was not dating anyone at the time and I imagine he will do the same for my wedding.

My mom was worried that me not giving one of my closer single girlfriends a plus one will cause some drama but because of all of the committed couples that we are friends with I reached the max on my guest list QUICKLY. I had to make executive decisions where necessary! She is now divorced but I was MOH at her wedding and didn't get a plus one so I think she will understand that I just simply cannot give plus ones to everyone. The guest list would just be too much.