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If you’re thinking of ideas on how to respond, you can always say that you are still working on your guest list, but you will see what you can do. I completely get the issue, and understand where you are coming from. If space allows, maybe consider giving her a plus one, but wait to decide until invites are going out to be sure. Personally I’ve had a few no’s even before we have sent invites, so I know there is wiggle room for situations like this if they come up.

I understand your frustration! It’s very annoying but from her perspective, would you want to attend a social event where you knew no one? I gave plus ones to all married couples and serious couples. I had three married ladies whose husbands could not come. They wouldn’t have known anyone else very well so I let them bring a girl friend instead. Is it annoying to have random people at your big day? Yes! But I would feel terrible if someone came and felt lonely or uncomfortable not knowing anyone. Not everyone makes friends easily at big social events!

I am not giving extra plus ones out, I am over my guest max as is and can’t afford any more. If someone comes to me asking for a plus one, I plan on telling them that I need to wait and see if there’s room for a plus one. If so, I would extend the offer but if not I can’t have more than our max amount show up at the venue.

We didn’t give plus ones to all single people, but we did give them to anyone who wouldn’t really know anyone else ...because we wanted them to come celebrate with us and actually have a good time. This ended up being only 2 people and they both brought a friend and I was so thrilled to host their friends because it meant my friends were totally comfortable and had a blast. I learned the hard way how awkward it can be to attend a wedding when you only know the couple getting married.... and one bridesmaid. NOT fun. I don’t think I’d put myself through that again, to be honest, even if I really adored the couple having the wedding and genuinely wanted to celebrate with them.

Everyone seems to have mixed opinions on plus ones. We’re giving most of our guests plus ones so that everyone has a dance partner and someone to talk to, particularly our friends who may not know anyone else.

We arent giving plus ones to guests who arent dating or married

We didn't do plus ones for any singular guests so it's really your choice. We have probably 1 guest that might not know anyone else. You can do the whole wait if people decline thing then decide but again that's up to you.

Especially if she is close enough to you that she'll be at your bachelorette party, its not weird that she asked for a plus one. You are definitely allowed to decline, but if she really doesn't know anyone, if you aren't in a position where you need to be stingy with invites, it's nice to give her one. Definitely not something to be upset about I don't think, but I understand the confusion if you haven't really heard of that sort of thing before

I did not allow plus ones for every person, i gaged who would be extroverted and introverted enough. if you aren't married or engaged, i did not feel obligated to give you a plus one for a bf/gf due to restricted capacity. for instance i have friends who would love to have a plus one but they know people they are comfortable and friends with so i didn't give them one. i have other friends who know people but that doesn't quite mean they're comfortable with them so in that case, i gave them a plus one. also anyone who wouldn't know anyone, i gave them a plus one too. there may be grumbles about why X got a plus one and not Z but you know what, at the end of the day, i do what i feel is best and sometimes you just don't have the capacity to accommodate everyone. i see your view on not wanting more strangers at your wedding, i feel that too. however i did say that if i had room after rsvps come in, i can let them know.

i agree with other comments that it's really based on what you think is appropriate for your budget and space and guest - if you are tight on the space, then that is just how it is. but if you have any wiggle room at all and you know the guest would not be comfortable alone, then it would be polite to extend it to them.

I’m extending a plus one to ALL of my single friends. I don’t care if they bring their... um... “f*** buddy” with them (sorry lol) or their best friend or brother or sister. I don’t care. As someone that is shy and uncomfortable around big groups of people that I don’t know well, I would never make a single friend come to my wedding alone unless they want to! I want all of my guests to have a great time and be comfortable and some people have a hard time relaxing around people they don’t know. Social anxiety is a very real thing. That’s just my opinion. I do get where you’re coming from though... it’s another person that YOU have to pay for that you don’t actually know, but think of how it will affect your friend.

Most of our guests are in relationships so we invited all their SOs. For the single ones, we just gave plus ones. Most people did not take us up on it, but I felt it was polite to offer. It’s no fun to go to an event on your own.

I have been honest with my friends that if they are not in a serious relationship they do not get a plus one, they all of been very understanding of this so far.

View Quoted Comment When you send invitations you address them to exactly who is invited. For instance: Ashlee Smith and Joe Doe. If you only wrote it to "Ashlee Smith" then only Ashlee is invited. If you write it to "Ashlee Smith and guest" then Ashlee can bring whoever she wants (her grandma, her girl friend, her girlfriend etc).

Be careful, if you write "The Smith family" or "Ashlee Smith and family" you're inviting her significant other and her kids. Some will take this to mean their parents and etc too, but I think that's a little less common to this that...

Just wait, some people don't know this. You'll get some back where people add a friend, significant other, parents etc. Or people will ask if they can bring someone with them when it's clear they weren't invited.

Some people will make an RSVP card that says "we have reserved __ seats in your honor. __ will attend" and they'll insert the number in the first (1, 2, 5 etc) blank so that the guest invited gets it. Even then, some will cross it out and add to it.

View Quoted Comment Okay that makes sense... I like the idea of the rsvp card! Thanks