Polite way to say your baby is not welcome

I am not asking if you think it is rude. I was only asking for a nice way to restate that the wedding is child-free, including babies.

@OP Yes, and when they go to work for 8 or so hours, they ALWAYS leave their infants with someone they don't know... *eyes rolling*

"Women already spend 8 hours away if they're working."

Yeah, with a childcare provider they know and trust. Not with some random person. And if these moms will be working and spending daytime weekday hours away from their babies, that makes it even worse that you're demanding they give up more time with them.

Ali, I am saying that not everyone stays home 24/7 with their baby. I get it, they may not come, but it is up to them. Just because you have a baby does not mean the world revolves around you.

We answered. You just didn't like our answer. You ignored it in favor of the one person who said you do you.

@OP There is no nicer way, because the entire concept is rude. Either be more accommodating or expect to have strained relationships with these people because of this. I know I would rethink our friendship if I got a message like that from you.

I do not care if you were asking if it was rude or not, you posted on a public forum, I let and many others let you know our opinion. That being said, there is no polite way to tell you that there is no polite way to request people to leave their infants at home or with a stranger.

I don't think anyone is trying to be rude to you. We're just trying to show you that you may want to rethink being rude to your guests. It is highly likely that your guests with newborns will think more like the majority of us and think it's rude of you to say that than to just say, "Well, it's her day!"

Returning to work is usually a financial imperative. Attending your wedding is entirely discretionary. That's a false equivalancey. And FYI, many parents are very unhappy about returning that quickly, being separated from their kids, pumping, illnesses from daycare, etc. Why would they take on some of those things for an entirely optional event for a couple who is actively rude to them?

The comments saying I was rude to request my own wedding be changed was in fact rude in itself, and didn't even answer my question. Disagreeing to what I want is not an answer to my question, it is just an opinion on the situation which had nothing to do with a helpful answer.

Would you ever tell someone with a newborn not to attend your birthday party? Your Christmas party? Halloween costume party? Babies not allowed, sorry, doesn't work for parents.

@OP there is no nice way, what you're doing is rude.

@Karen- and just because you're getting married, the world does not revolve around you. That works both ways.

@OP - If you think these comments are rude, you haven't been on these forums enough. Everyone's being pretty nice I think. Frank, perhaps. But not rude.

My very first response was " there is no polite way to say that". You asked if there was. Question=answered.

Amen @Beklynn!! @OP there's no nice way to say something rude. That's what people are telling you.

Oh, that was rude? This is like the nicest I've ever been on these forums. Must comply with the fluffy rules.

FutureMrsRawlings, FH and I are both introverts. We don't host casual parties, but if we did we sure would stick to our guns regarding no babies or children allowed either.

To be frank, H and I dislike children. We don't want our own, and we don't care much about other people's. I'll always treat a child kindly, but I don't have any lovey feelings towards them and they make me uncomfortable. We had an adult only wedding, however there are two families that had very young infants at the time of our wedding, and because we love them and want them not only to be there but be comfortable, we encouraged them to bring the babies and offered to set up a room at the venue (B&B) as a quiet place if they need to feed or change the baby, or just get away from the party and relax. It worked out that one family couldn't make it for other reasons, and the other found a sitter, so it never came about anyway, but that's what you do when you're a decent human being.

I'm gonna chalk this post up as coming from a very immature bride. No words....

Just because we don't provide exceptions for new parents makes us indecent human beings. Being a parent of any age baby or kid doesn't mean you're entitled for special accommodations.