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Master October 2017

Polite way to say your baby is not welcome

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Must Love Cats, on January 14, 2017 at 12:54 PM

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We have told OOT guests with kids that the wedding is child-free over the summer and it was understood. Since then my friend and FH's cousins wife are both due in May and they would need to travel to attend. If they bring their babies with them we will not be able to accommodate them because some people think child-free means just kids and babies are the exception but they are not to us. I've been trying to find a sitter who can watch the babies so we can refer them to our guests if they make the choice to come because as much as this sounds harsh we don't want any kids/babies there. It's been hard even finding someone. At this point I'm thinking if we can't even find someone local to refer to guests to use they should stay home. We understand some people don't want to leave kids, much less babies, but we want our wedding entirely child-free. We are not going to make exceptions to anyone. How do you politely say to someone their baby is not welcome in keeping with a child-free wedding?

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Master October 2017
Must Love Cats · on January 14, 2017 at 3:00 PM
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I have no idea what thread you're talking about FlyingSoon, but your comment was nicely said so thank you.

As I said countless times we understand if people decline for that reason, it's their choice. But we don't have to accommodate parents with newborns. It's their choice to leave their baby for a few hours and come to a wedding they are excited about, or decline. They can't have it both ways. Also when a baby starts off in childcare there is that initial period where it had to start one day. Child care or baby sitting had to start somewhere. There was the initial step a parent made to leave their baby with a new place or stranger.
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Master October 2017
Must Love Cats · on January 14, 2017 at 3:02 PM
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5 months isn't a new born. 1-3 months is a newborn hence why the USA gives those three months of maternity leave.
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Champion June 2010
Laura · on January 14, 2017 at 3:03 PM
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This seems unnecessarily heated. Locking for review.
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Georgia · on December 5, 2018 at 7:01 PM
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And that would be your choice. When a couple is planning their wedding and spending lots of money for how they want their wedding to be, why do they have to accommodate children/babies??? I've been married over 30 years. When my children were babies or even young, I never brought them to weddings even if invited. I was respectful the the couple and family. Weddings are no place for children/babies to be running around like it's a playground. And especially when parents do not control them.....very disrespectful!
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Just Said Yes September 2019
Maria · on June 10, 2019 at 3:21 PM
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Everyone has a right to their own feelings.
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Just Said Yes September 2022
Davidian · on August 10, 2022 at 5:19 PM
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Yes. The child can make the same decision when its time for their wedding.
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Just Said Yes September 2022
Davidian · on August 10, 2022 at 5:21 PM
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Not when they're crying during an entire ceremony and the parents are too dense to take them away from the area until they calm down. Seen it too many times.
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