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Mrs. McMurry
Devoted June 2018

Positive outlook on marriage!

Mrs. McMurry, on December 22, 2017 at 12:47 AM

Posted in Married Life 31

As a future bride, I've found that many {dare I say...most?} things I've heard about marriage is how difficult it will be. Now, don't get me wrong, I understand that marriage and life in general come with hard times and difficulties. I also believe that love is a choice, as well as a feeling/belief....
As a future bride, I've found that many {dare I say...most?} things I've heard about marriage is how difficult it will be. Now, don't get me wrong, I understand that marriage and life in general come with hard times and difficulties. I also believe that love is a choice, as well as a feeling/belief. However, to be honest, it is a bit discouraging to hear constant negativity about marriage, and to have people tell me that marriage is "the hardest thing you'll ever do." The way I see it, I will be living with my best friend, the person I was created to be with. Because hard times are a part of life, I would much rather go through those with him by my side than have everything go perfectly but be without him. We are both committed to "until death do us part," and we believe in protecting the covenant of marriage. I do not have unrealistic expectations that things will always go perfectly, but I could honestly use some encouragement about the wonderful things about marriage. Thank you all in advance for your wisdom and encouragement!
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  • Mrs. Brown
    Devoted May 2018
    Mrs. Brown ·
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    I work in a car dealership and I have had so many men come up to me a few times a month since I got engaged and ask/say things like "Back out yet?" "Realize your mistake?" "You're going to regret it." "Say good bye to freedom!" It's like, just because your marriage(s) didn't work out and you're bitter about it, doesn't mean that mine won't work out.

    "If you don't have anything nice to say, just don't say anything at all."

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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    LIFE is hard, it’s nice to have someone you love to get through it with.
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  • Mrs. Fall Bride
    Master October 2016
    Mrs. Fall Bride ·
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    That’s a shame if that’s all you’re hearing! Marriage is a beautiful thing, IMO, and yes, we’ve had our ups and downs, but that’s normal and I wouldn’t change a thing about us or our decision to get married. It’s not always easy, but you make a choice to love your partner and find a way to work it out no matter what.

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  • GoodMOB
    April 2018
    GoodMOB ·
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    Sure, it's hard sometimes, but I find if you just hold on and let it run its course, (or get some counseling once in awhile), it gets better again after awhile, and then you have a deeper marriage than before.

    Married 33 years and counting.


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  • Kaye
    VIP October 2018
    Kaye ·
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    This one decision will dictate the amount of joy and misery your life will hold. I've seen really great people in really horrible marriages.

    I absolutely believe love is a choice and an action. My parents were crazy in love until my father passed. The had discussions and disagreements on occasion but never a fight.

    My FH and I are the same way. When I am upset about something I tell him and don't let it fester. He always recognizes my feelings and tries to do his best to fix it. I do the same. We talk calmly and face to face. Having an important discussion is never a good time to text.

    His parents also have a wonderful marriage. When one of them leaves for the store, they always kiss the other good bye.

    Although I don't know what the future holds, I am very hopeful for our marriage to be a thing of joy more than not. In the end we are both givers and serve the best interest of the other.
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  • Kaye
    VIP October 2018
    Kaye ·
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    Giving this some more thought. The misery and joy you have depends on you. It's a conscious decision one has to make to believe in the good heart and good intentions of your spouse.
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  • Katy
    VIP June 2018
    Katy ·
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    The hardest things in life are the things that are most worth the fight honestly.

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  • Future Mrs B
    Super July 2017
    Future Mrs B ·
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    I agree marriage can be hard. You make the decision to work thro it and continue to love the person
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  • FutureFrames
    Dedicated November 2020
    FutureFrames ·
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    Any relationship has its bad days that doesn't mean marriage is difficult per say... life is hard in general, but having an amazing person to share the bumpy ride next to you should make it suck a little less.

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  • FutureMrsM
    Super July 2018
    FutureMrsM ·
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    Something about marriage that makes me happy: I don't have to get my own soup when I have the flu.

    Also, yeahhhh, life sucks, but I'd rather go through the suckiness with the person I love than by myself
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  • V
    Beginner June 2018
    Veronica ·
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    I have no advice, but I totally agree with you! We aren't alone!
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