Post-elopement Celebrations

Since guests are likely to bring you gifts/money in celebration of your marriage, as a guest I would find it odd being asked to bring a potluck dish. However, you know your family/guests better than I would so they may be totally fine with it! Something to keep in mind however, is the fact that the fear over COVID19 is likely to last quite a bit so people may be hesitant to eat a meal that was not prepared professionally.

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Thanks. After I read another discussion, I realized that traveling with the side dish would be a bit much, so I altered my post.

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No worries! If you're sending invites, you can add a little space at the end that just mentions something about "Limited bar available. Please feel free to bring your own refreshments."

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Thanks! I'm one of those over-thinkers and a lot of times the simplest thing eludes me lol

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It's okay! Sometimes we all need a little help/reassurance on what we're already thinking

I think you should avoid it exactly as you said it. You can just say keg of beer provided however if you prefer a different libation feel free to bring your preferred spirit. I've seen wedding invitations where they mention only beer and wine to be served so that way people knew in advance. Since it is in someone's backyard I'm assuming it's okay for a BYOB and I'm only saying that in case it is like a venue then you have to check with them hahaha.

Ah i did this on my wedding website. i said that there will be limited alcohol provided but that they can feel free to bring their own as well

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Oh yeah, those venues have to make sure everything is on the up & up--which I completely understand and respect. My best friend has a nice large backyard that we're using. We want something just low-key and fun. No stress is our motto. Tho, I know at some point I will LOL

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Smart! I didn't even really think about doing a website simply because we're eloping just us, and doing essentially a casual family backyard BBQ...didn't know if a website would be worth while?

View Quoted Comment That is a perfect wedding so yeah I would just say the invitation that beer will be served but if you prefer a different hi pod alcoholic beverage feel free to bring your own bottle.

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I think this wording is great!

We've just been communicating with the people we want to attend our elopement backyard cook out via phone, text, facebook and in person when possible. We'll provide the food (keeping it simple - hotdogs, burgers, sausages and some simple sides), with a couple friends we've asked to help start the food cooking as we return from the ceremony, and we'll provide some beer/wine/champagne. Knowing our friends, they will likely bring some food and alcohol themselves as well. I may set up an evite event, or Facebook event for this cook out, just to make sure everyone knows the plans, since either FH or I have everyone who would be coming on there.

I think a lot depends on your friend circle, as to what they will accept and what they would be willing to do. We are not planning to ask anyone to provide any food or drink but, as I mentioned, a few of our friends tend to do that for any event whether asked to or not because that's just who they are.