This might be long....I'll start at the beginning....my husband and I told my family that we were getting married on June 20 in early March. They told me that they (my parents, only brother, SIL, niece, nephew, and my SIL's parents) has planned a beach vacation and were leaving the night before. My parents said they would go a day later so they could come to the wedding, but it was understood that my brother and his family would not be in attendance. Well, then COVID happened. We decided to postpone our wedding. We wanted to have a Halloween wedding, but my brother disapproved as Halloween is "a big deal at [his] house." So, we went with 12.19. I was hesitant to really plan due to the ever changing pandemic stuff, but my SIL and her mother were kind enough to offer their help, and began to get antsy around September. I held them off a little as I had an endocrinologist appointment in early October due to possible cancer. My doctor said she's pretty sure I'm okay, and that I should enjoy my wedding and come in for my ultrasound in January. After that, planning was full-fledged. My mom and SIL and her mom insisted on visiting the venue without me one weekend as I had a coaching obligation and they were not willing to wait a week until I could come. Flower girl dress was bought and altered. Cases continued to get worse. I had a couple of conversations with my mom as I was worried about the numbers, but no one indicated that they didn't want to come. Well, two days prior to the wedding, my family tells me they aren't coming. I was so hurt, as this was sprung on me, and I would have either seriously considered re-postponing, or had time to come to terms with their absence had I had any notice. On my wedding day, I never heard from my brother or SIL at all. My parents stayed for about ten minutes before my mom told me my dad was "freaking out" about our 25 guests. She had been up a week before to learn to bustle my dress, but as she was gone, my friends had to struggle to bustle it. I was worried that they would dis-invite my husband and I to Christmas two days prior, so I offered to wait another week so we could quarantine for two weeks before coming to their house. In 36 years, I've never not spent Christmas with my family, but I did this year. I think they handled this in a really mean way. My dad told me that it actually wasn't about COVID, it was that I got married too soon. And that no one told me they weren't coming because I am "fragile", which I suppose is in reference to a horrific injury I suffered three years ago. I'm not sure why if I was fragile, the plan was to crush me two days out. Anyway, we're going to their house to celebrate Christmas tomorrow, and I feel like it's going to be SO awkward. Any advice?
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