Posting registry on social media?

It’s generally considered poor etiquette to advertise your registry in social media. If some reaches out and asks then feel free to send them the link, but I wouldn’t post it.

It is bad etiquette because it looks like you didn’t care to invite everyone but you’re still hoping everyone gets you a gift.
(I know that’s not how you actually feel, it’s just how it can come across)

Registry info doesn’t go on invites. It’s spread via word of mouth when people ask. Definitely do not post it on social media. You can list it on your website though.

What is your reasoning behind wanting to post it on social media?

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I actually don't. My FH doesn't see the issue with it (he doesn't understand things sometimes) and so I am trying to show him that it's not a good idea.

It would be in very bad taste to post your registry on social media, because that looks like the ultimate gift grab. Wedding registries should only be shared with guests who are actually invited to your wedding, or with people who specifically ask for it

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Oh ok. Then I guess ask him why he wants to do it? Once you know that, you can discuss the pros and cons if it with him. I feel that there would be way more cons than pros of doing this.

I would absolutely NOT post your registry to social media. If someone wants it, they’ll ask for it. Or they’ll send a card with a check. Do NOT by any means do this please.

Yes, it would be a bad idea because it would come across as gift grabby.

Hey Mary! I agree with you that it's generally considered bad etiquette to post registry links on social media (for the reasons that PPs have mentioned). I imagine that your FH wants it to be easily accessible to whoever may want it - as a middle ground, what if you and your FH both had the link saved in your phones so you could text it easily whenever someone asked for it? And maybe email the links to certain family members so that (and I imagine this is what he was trying to facilitate) if a friend of one of your moms or aunts or grandparents asks them for the link, they can just forward the email super quickly? Or maybe he's thinking / maybe it's a common practice for his mom's/aunt's/grandma's book club/church group/friend group to send out registries of younger family members getting married or having kids? This might be a cultural thing, but I agree with you that there are better ways to go about it than the online equivalent of "shouting it from the mountaintops."

As a semi-related example, I recently had a friend text me her baby registry link....totally unprompted...without any sort of baby shower invitation. She had a virtual shower that was apparently limited to family only, but this text/gesture was super off-putting and annoying....to me, she was saying "hey, you're not good enough to be invited to a Zoom call, but please buy me stuff for my unborn child." I know that's not super related (as y'all are having an in-person wedding, and there are a ton of guest list-limiting factors like budgets and restrictions and all that), AND it's not like y'all are texting your registry link directly to people who didn't ask for it, but I just wanted to provide a somewhat extreme example of how it could potentially come across. And it's obvious from your post that that's not y'all's intent!

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I agree with this, and someone could assume they are getting an invite but they aren't.

It is definitely bad etiquette to post this on social media and would come across as very gift grabby. Additionally, it is also bad etiquette to put this on invitations. If you have a wedding website you can put it there. Otherwise, people will find it themselves.

You could post it on your wedding website which you’d put on your details card in your invitation suite. Never on social media. That just says “we didn’t want t to invite you to the wedding but we wanted you to buy us a gift” which is incredibly rude.

View Quoted Comment Agreed. And you don’t put on invites. Wait until you’re asked.

Definitely don't put your wedding registry on social media!