Postpone or have wedding

We’ll be making the call in September whether to move to Plan C, which would be eloping and having a reception/anniversary party next year. Right now, our state isn’t allowing receptions, so the decision may be made for us. I’d sit down with your FS and decide what you really want your wedding to look like. If you moved forward with just immediate family this year and everyone next year, would you be okay with that decision down the road? If not, I’d postpone for the wedding you truly want.

My wedding was supposed to be July 31, 2020, but we ultimately postponed. We had a lot of guests coming in from states that are experiencing large COVID spikes at the moment, and we did not feel comfortable proceeding with our wedding as planned. Also, with all the restrictions in place (limited guest list, masks, social distancing, etc), our wedding was not shaping up to be what we had initially planned for. So for the safety of our guests and for us to be able to have the wedding we wanted, we postponed.


I can't tell you whether it's best for you to postpone or not, though I recommend looking at all the info: what restrictions are in place in your area? If you're forced to cut your guest list, are you comfortable with proceeding? Are many guests coming in from out of town or from areas that have a lot of COVID cases? Will your venue and vendors allow you to postpone at no extra fee? If you postpone the reception, would you still plan to marry on your original date? Talk with your fiance and figure out what is most important to you as a couple - keeping your original date? Or having the wedding you wanted? Those answers are different for everyone, but that would be a good start in deciding whether to postpone or not. I recommend making the decision 6-8 weeks before your wedding date, just to give enough notice to your guests, venue, and vendors on whether they should still plan for your original date or not. Best of luck!

Everyone really has to make this decision for themselves. We are keeping our date right now, but we can cancel up to thirty days before and get our money back for catering and venue if needed. Our plan B is to get married on our date just us and have a vow renewal in 2022 most likely (since 2021 is pretty booked). We cut our guest list to fifty, our ceremony is outside with plenty of room to socially distance, and we’ve already been engaged 19 months and want to be married. Our indoor reception we will have masks, plenty of hand sanitizer, and seat people by family or social group in the case of friends. Postponing didn’t make sense for us because we looked good for Covid numbers in June when we sent invites and we would lose $2800, which we really can’t afford. Everyone has to make the best decision for them. If the situation gets worse in CO over the next couple weeks, FH and I will discuss what the best thing to do is, but for now we’re on. Fora lot of people it really comes down to are you okay with the restrictions or not? Masks, limited numbers, etc...

We just postponed our wedding to 10/30/2021. Originally, it was 10/30/2020. We're in CA where things are getting worse and we felt uncomfortable to keep planning for our original date. We plan to get legally married by the county and do the whole shebang on our first anniversary. Most of our immediate family members are either out of state or outside the country. We hope things are better next fall, so we can have a wedding celebration that we envisioned.

I think it depends on where you live and what restrictions are in place, as well as what’s important to you. I live in Northern CA and venues are not allowed to host events yet. So people have no choice but to postpone or do something small. My cousin has the same wedding date as you. She will still be getting married in a small ceremony with parents and siblings, and the reception will be next year.

We got married 5/16/20 & chose to have a small ceremony with 7 people n the reception at our apartment. We didnt want to postpone. We aren't having a bigger reception next year

I think a lot of it depends on your location. Our wedding is planned for 3 weeks after yours; DW in the FL Keys. We currently have no plans of canceling or postponing and moving full steam ahead with our plans. Everything I keep reading doesn't reflect the state going back to March's phase 1 approach so I feel confident we'll be OK. Additionally it's already outdoors and we have about 50 guests.

We’re still planning on our November 21st wedding in coastal Virginia. We planned small to begin with (60 people total) and our venue is very spacious. I already have masks in my amazon cart to buy for guests.
If we can’t do it as planned this year, then we will get married on our day with our officiant, photographer, and a few guests. (cancel the DJ, venue, and adjust the flowers and cake order) My parents have told me, if that happens,

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Parents said to use the leftover money to pay off bills or put a down payment on a house.

We're still planning for our September 19th wedding in TN. We've kind of reached the point of no return with so much of our stuff paid for in full that no matter what we will be getting married on our original date. So far we have about half of our rsvp cards back with a deadline of August 19th on those

It really depends on your area. But we decided we will not be responsible for people getting sick because we wanted to party. There are too many articles that people had their wedding and guests got sick and some passed on. With schools opening up 🤦‍♀️ it's going to get sooooo much worse in the next month or two. Honestly postpone while you can. I know if sucks, I made the decision to move my september wedding to next year.
We are going to the courthouse to tie the knot just the two of us and then next year on our one year anniversary we will (hopefully) be able to have the wedding we planned for this year. Good luck!

We postponed our 9/6/20. Well, it's not finalized yet, but we are waiting on the new contract from our venue for 7/25/21. Our venue called a few days ago and said we needed to either cut down our guest list for a socially distanced wedding, do just a ceremony for 50 people and reception in 2021, or completely postpone to 2021. We chose the latter. We plan to get legally married with a very small number of close family and possibly a friend or two on our original date. Next year I guess it'll be more like a vow renewal, which we don't love, but 'tis in tune of what a lot of others are doing. So far multiple family/friends have reported that they feel relieved we've decided to postpone because they either weren't going to come due to health concerns or would have felt stressed the whole time if we kept our original event. We would've postponed months ago but our venue wanted to charge us a few thousand extra. So sorry you're going through this!

As others have mentioned it depends on so many factors- your area and local/venue restrictions, your guest list and whether the people that matter can be there, your money situation (many will charge extra to postpone to next year) and your willingness to re-plan (no guarantee of another available date & no guarantee that new date will be better).

For me, these are the factors I've considered daily and go back and forth on