Postponed due to the Plague, how about you?

So sorry you (and all of us 2020 couples) are going through this! Of all the things you worry about going wrong with your wedding, i’m pretty sure no one ever planned for something like this!! We SHOULD be getting married in 62 days... but thanks to Covid, it is now 427 days away 😭😭 I was obviously very disappointed when we had to reschedule, but have since decided to focus on all the positive things that have come out of rescheduling- which of course doesn’t completely eradicate the disappointment of losing our original date, but it definitely helps me to stay positive! We plan on celebrating our “Should have been wedding date” this year. Maybe you guys could do the same? Doesn’t have to be anything huge and extravagant, just a little something to make the day special for you and your fiancé.

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Exactly! I think maybe I'm so down in the dumps because we're just 2 days away from the original date now? Also a good friend of ours who's in the wedding party has a cousin who is still going through with her wedding today. So reality is just setting in I think! We've been mainly positive leading up to this. A friend of ours got a few friends on board to come over Saturday night for a fire and champagne. She also made a good point that we'll celebrate Saturday like we would've, but instead of waking up Sunday with it all over, we get to do it again in April. Yes, I feel for all Brides and Grooms in 2020. I'm so sorry to hear you're going through it too, but you're right, positivity will get us through. Good luck on your planning and thanks for relating with me!

I felt something similar when we postponed and our original date approached. The biggest thing that helped me was the we planned a fun weekend getaway with a couple friends to the area that our wedding will be (it's a semi-destination wedding) for the weekend of our original date. We visited our venue's restaurant for lunch, did wine tasting at local wineries, and spent time with friends. I put together a gift basket for my fiance with COVID themed mugs/wine glasses, snacks, a handwritten note, etc. We also bought a mini cake from our cake baker for us to share the morning of our original date (and I bought a cake topper that said "Happy Supposed To Be Wedding Day"). It made it a super fun weekend that we actually looked forward to, and had a bunch of positive memories from the weekend. It did get easier to pick up planning again once our original date passed.


I strongly suggest doing something fun this weekend and make it a weekend of happy memories! Whether it's a last minute weekend getaway, or a date night out, or a movie night in, celebrate you and your fiance. It is disappointing to have to postpone. Definitely allow yourself to feel those emotions, but also plan fun things to put a positive spin on it and intentionally make some happy memories. I do think it'll get easier once your original date passes too.

We postponed as well! It really sucks having to do that because I got to see those before me plan their weddings accordingly and I’m the one who can’t I’m trying to keep things on the bright side though. I just tell myself postponing will allow more time for the pandemic to get better so that loved ones from far away can travel with more ease, and it’ll give us an opportunity to save more money.
Please do something special with your fiancé on your original date! It’s totally valid to be upset! Weddings are a major milestone so do whatever you need to, to process everything.

I'm so sorry for everything you have been going through. You have every right to be disappointed. I hope you have a beautiful day in April. Unfortunately, with weddings it can sometimes bring out the worst in people. People are really selfish and don't understand what brides have been going through with this COVID.

Our original date was Sunday, May 24 and we moved it to October 18 which we're doing no matter what. I can tell you that that Friday night as we sat having dinner just us I was a hot mess; bawling...could not keep it together thinking about what should have been happening. May 24 was a beautiful day in New York that would have been perfect for a wedding. We got dressed nicer than we had yet during quarantine, my parents delivered chocolate covered strawberries, and we had Champagne, got pizza, and had our own little party. And, when I woke up on May 25 I was like "ah! it's not all over we still have the wedding to look forward to!" and now I think about what we would have been doing if we were married now, all the excitement would be over and I'm glad we got a little extra time. Our October wedding is not going to be what we wanted (most of his family won't be there..only his mom will come and we're losing 4 bridesmaids and 3 groomsen) but still trying to look forward to it as a special day for US.

So sorry my dear and wow that comment was rude smh... I feel your pain. We were scheduled for next Saturday 9/19 and the weather is also going to be beautiful lol. We got engaged back in 2018 and to make it alllll the way to 2020 for this to happen is like REALLY. We've decided to take a trip to Vegas to celebrate anyway (not getting married there) just going for some fun next week. Take a mini break from planning just to breathe a little and in a month or so start again. You'll be refreshed, maybe have some new fun ideas to add, it'll get better!

View Quoted Comment Love thatttttt! I totally agree because I've said that too, what will I do once it's all over lol!

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Hah right? while we hit pause once we made the decision to postpone back in April it's been nice to have the distraction of planning and building up the excitement while we're still kinda doing nothing too exciting. And even though it's going to be so small it's going to be so nice to interact with people haha

View Quoted Comment Yes it totally will be! It took a minute for me to get excited again but I'm back now lol!