Postponed weddings

Hi! My wedding is 8/29/20 and my FH and I are seriously considering postponing to 8/28/21. If we do so, we will do a civil ceremony on 8/28/20 and do a 1 year vow renewal next year. My mom is strongly against the idea, stating that no one would come to that, but given the situation, I think most guests would still attend. Also, my FH and I definitely do not want to have to implement any restrictions for our guests, we want everyone to enjoy as much as possible. Additionally, waiting a year would definitely help with finances and would ensure that we would be able to have everything we want. That being said, we still plan to wait a few weeks before we make a final decision. My venue told us today that wedding are considered Phase 3, and San Diego, CA is still in phase 1, so I don't see us getting to little to no restrictions anytime soon...Good luck with your decision!!

Getting married October 4 in Pennsylvania - have no plans to postpone again. Hoping the CDC will allow at least small gatherings so we can still get married! At this point it could be 200 people or 50, it’s gonna happen!

10/24 here. A little worried but won’t be deciding anything until August...my venue is still hopeful. If I can have 50 people attend, I would still get married but right now it’s at 10....that would mean just us and our parents including step parents and it makes me sad to think about getting married without my whole family.

View Quoted Comment Would you get married if it’s still 10 guest max? Not sure the max in your state but my immediate family is already past that number lol I don’t want to get married without them there...

I’ve been avoiding thinking about it, but now I’m strongly considering pushing to next year. I’m 11/7/20 date. My vendors are still largely open in the fall and my concern is that the wedding won’t be what we originally wanted (social distancing, wearing masks). Sporting events and concerts aren’t likely to restart until next fall... So I doubt that large gatherings will be encouraged

View Quoted Comment I’m not sure what the CDC will say about Pennsylvania, but if they say 10 guest max, my immediate family is larger than that too, but we’ve been waiting so long already and postponed once already, so I think we would just go through with it at this point. Maybe just invite our parents and live stream for the rest of the people who couldn’t be there? I don’t know... it’s hard to say right now :/

10/23 in Wiscosin here. Getting a bit worried. I reached out to my venue-they are hopeful we can still have our wedding but cant guarantee it. We have a guest list of 150 but are willing to cut it down to 50 if needed. Weve already been engaged for 3 years and dont want to wait another year. We really dont want to postpone it. But if it came down to only allowing 10 people-at that point we would postpone.
Ive also reached out to my photographer and will reach out to my hair and makeup to gets thoughts and stay in the loop.
Overall all this up in the air situation has been stressful. Its like do I keep planning, do I keep going forward or am I supposed to just stop and postpone

View Quoted Comment If there’s anything that this pandemic taught me, it’s to not worry anymore about stupid stuff. I was obsessing over my hairstyle, table cloth colors, flowers and vases...now at this point I am not even sure there will be a wedding, and I just want everyone I love there...

Nov 7, 2020 bride as well, we decided to cancel the large wedding and do something small like 20 people. There is honestly no telling the guidelines for the fall and I don’t want to risk getting anyone sick especially the elders. I was never really into the whole wedding planning but I was definitely looking forward to dress shopping. I’ve rescheduled my dress consultation for the 3rd time. Yess, Yes I know of the virtual options but I’m not feeling that. I need to try before I buy lol Coronavirus has definitely rained all over my parade 😩😩😩

My wedding day is October 3rd too! I live in VA and it’s a little stressful trying to plan with everything being closed until June, but I’m planning as much as I can. Congratulations by the way!

Gatherings of ten will be permitted in my state starting May 25th, so even if it is ten people, we are planning to have our wedding as long as I don't have to wear a mask and have my photographer.

View Quoted Comment Agreed. Im not worrying about the small stuff at all. Im just keeping my vendors in the loop and lets be real when putting down a deposit for a vendor and if you had to postpone and they werent available for the new date it would suck especially if loosing money

I'm October 11th in CT, I'm definitely freaking out! Thinking about postponing but do not want to!

View Quoted Comment Tell me about it. I just put down another deposit because of the deadline for the quarterly payment.

I think each wedding is different, and where you are located, number of guests, venue, and service will all impact whether or not things can happen on a given date. If I was planning a small outdoor October wedding, I probably wouldn't be overly worried yet and would hold off on making any drastic decisions until at least mid-July. If you are planning to have a big event or have a lot of guests traveling from other areas, then I'd consider whether plans need to change sooner. I imagine that international travel and large gatherings will still be restricted for quite some time, and if you suddenly need to space out 200+ guests six feet apart your venue might not be able to accommodate that as easily as making adjustments for a 60 person event.

I’m with you! 10/24 wedding in WA. It’s definitely on my mind a lot, but we’re not making any immediate plans to postpone until closer to. My only worry is if there’s a “second wave,” but gosh it’s hard to predict! And also, if this virus continues to stick around, I would hate for 2021 to be affected too and have to postpone AGAIN. It’s so hard! Would be nice to know before we send out invites in July/August, but the situation changes so rapidly, I feel like it’s hard to know until last minute. Wishing well to all the fall brides out there!

We are October 16th, in New York of all places We are taking things one day at a time, my venue has made it very clear that they will work with us and everything will be transferred over in the case we need to reschedule. We have been starting to reach out to all of our other vendors to see what their policy is regarding rescheduling if it comes to that. Our PAUSE order is in effect until at least May 15th (as of now...) and although I think we may be somewhat back to "normal" life come October (what is normal anymore?), they are talking about another outbreak come fall My FH is a teacher and they are already talking about and planning on starting remotely in the fall. For now we are just trying to stay positive and hope this craziness is over soon and we can enjoy our wedding like we imagined. Stay strong ladies, we will have our day!

View Quoted Comment I totally agree! The things we spent months stressing over (flowers, cake, decor) all seem so trivial now!

View Quoted Comment I’m a CT bride too! We aren’t until December but are getting worried because half of our guest are coming from New Jersey

My wedding is on October 3rd too! I live in VA and being closed down until June 10th is making it hard to plan, but I’m doing the best I can. I’m having less than 100 people and it’s outdoors, I don’t plan to postpone yet. Congratulations!!