Postponement - Pressure for the day to be perfectly organised?

My thought will always be, who cares what anyone else thinks? 99% of the time they won't even know something didn't go right, and it's your and your FH's night... if they want to be negative or point things out, then they must have some misery in their lives to not just enjoy your happiest days!

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That's true. Plus it's a night of dinner/dancing/drinks on someone else's dime so even if it isn't perfect, they should put up and shut up, haha!

I suppose too, very few people would have the balls to tell you to your face what they really thought, so you'll never actually know, but still. It's still there at the back of my mind, sigh!

While we recently downsized our wedding by 75%, when we had originally planned to postpone by one year, I never felt any pressure to be more organised than ever, and I made a point not to.

I knew that I would never please 100% of guests regardless of how long it took me to plan my wedding, or how much money I invested into it and that the only people whose opinions mattered were those of my partner and I. In any event, no matter how organised you are, there will always be mishaps and oversights that are unpreventable, whether the wedding was planned overnight or over the course of multiple years.

If anything, I think you'll find the opposite to be true, in that your guests will be wowed by your attention to detail and all the little touches that you've put in which they would have never thought of themselves!

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That is such a good way to look at it! And I hope so!

I really need to get over this nagging feeling of having forgotten something. I've got 6 months to organise things even if I HAVE forgotten something, but my brain still thinks worrying about it is a useful, good idea!

Honestly, I wouldn’t want anyone who would make any comments like that at my wedding. So if anyone does say something like that, it’s their problem, not yours. They don’t know your circumstances or how much/little you planned. And besides, plans are just that. You could plan down to the minute but things could still get off somehow. Nobody really knows what’s going on.

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That is true. I don't think we do have any guests who'd ever actually say anything - it's probably more a reflection of my own perfectionism, than them!

Congratulations on your upcoming wedding! I had to postpone our wedding from March 2020 to February 2022 and I did feel so much pressure. We hired a day of coordinator to try and make this day less stressful and more organized. Have you thought about one? We couldn't afford a planner when first started but we figured we couldn't afford not to have someone day of. Hope that helps a little.

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Aww, thank you! I'm sorry you also had to postpone. We really are living in crazy and frustrating times. Hopefully both of our weddings will be lovely. I haven't actually considered a day of coordinator, but may be it's something to look into. As you say, with the additional time to save, it might be in the budget!

View Quoted Comment I just saw that we are date twins! I'm sure both of our days will be amazing.

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Awww, how nice! Yes, hopefully our new date is much better!

When my fiance and I postponed from 2020 to 2022, I didn't feel any pressure for the day to be perfect from the guests' perspective, though I saw it as an opportunity to add the things my fiance and I had either run out of time to do (such as, ring bearer signs) or vendors we didn't previously have in our budget (videographer and day-of coordinator).

I totally agree with the previous comments - in the end, it is your opinion of your wedding that matters. If any guest is judging you for your wedding not being perfect in their eyes, that's their problem, not yours. Truthfully though, I don't think you'll be judged. From weddings I've gone to, I'm always focused on interacting with friends and family and the couple, and enjoying the wedding they planned. I am never wondering what else they "could have had" or how much time they had to plan. Focus on what you and your fiance genuinely want for your wedding, not what your guests want you to have, and don't feel pressured to do anything differently. Your day will be perfect because it is about you and your fiance and celebrating your love together!

Honestly, idc how long it takes to plan something. I feel that it's rare that a big event goes by and it is flawless - that's just not being realistic