Postponement

After we postponed once, I cheered up bc I knew we were getting married and would not postpone again.

We haven't had to postpone, but we did take the pandemic into consideration when picking our wedding date (Jan. 2022).

At first I was really upset because our other friends that got engaged around the same time as us, are planning their weddings for fall of this year. I just felt like I waited so long for this proposal, and now I have to watch our friends you got engaged after us, get married before us.

I just had to sit myself down and remind myself that everyone is on a different timeline, and regardless of the wedding date...we'll be married as well. I take little breaks from wedding planning when I start to feel stressed or depressed. Take mental health days away from wedding planning. Have fun date nights, or do something together as a couple to bond more.

We didn’t postpone but we are having to downsize so I somewhat understand! We have tried really hard to make the most out of the new wedding. I know that sounds kind of cheesy - we’ve planned things differently to make the day really all about us and what we love. That’s helped me a lot - I would even say I’m more excited about this wedding than our larger one we were planning! Try to use it as an opportunity to have more planning time to make it exactly what you want!

I'm so sorry you had to postpone! My fiance and I postponed our July 2020 wedding to July 2022, and it was a very difficult decision. One thing that helped us overcome the sadness was to plan something fun for our original date! We planned a weekend getaway with a few friends. I put together a gift basket for my fiance with all kinds of COVID themed items (wine glasses, coffee mugs, etc), snacks, a card, and a cake topper that said, "Happy Supposed To Be Wedding Day". We purchased a small cake from our cake baker for us to share on our original date. It ended up being arguably the best weekend of our entire year!


I strongly suggest doing something similar!! Make fun plans for your original date - a weekend getaway, a date night out, a second engagement photo shoot with your photographer, or even a movie night in! In any case, make it a day of happy memories. It does get a lot easier once the original date has passed, and you can fully focus on your new date.

Hi Suzann, I’ve been through a postponement and I know how you feel ❤️ I always wanted to be a June bride and we moved it to August 2020. We were crushed. At first, I didn’t like the new date and we had a very hard time re-planning. My now husband, watching him be heartbroken was even worse. However, now that we are on the other side, I LOVE my new date and it turned out 1000 times better!!! No one is more surprised than us how well it actually turned out.


What I can tell you is the day guests starting arriving for the rehearsal, my excitement went from a negative -10 to 100%!! Look for the pros. For me, our original date was full of thunderstorms. Our actual day was sunny and a perfect 78 degrees. You may have dodged a covid spreader bullet and had you kept it been like “why didn’t I just postpone!?”. Hang in there girlie ❤️ You are not alone.

I feel you girl! We postponed our July 2020 wedding to April 2021 and now that's not really looking promising

We've recently postponed our wedding next month until further notice. I'm still struggling myself to not be disappointed. Our restrictions are supposed to be changing within the week so we're hoping it'll be more relaxed. If not, then we'll just have to downsize and move forward. We're hoping to pick things back up within the next few months or so. It'll give us extra time to focus on a few other things that we weren't able to before.

We were supposed to get married 4/17/2021 and we just postponed to 2/6/2022. I cried for at least 3 days while we were deciding. I'm still upset about it, but I'm trying to remind myself that postponing will give us the wedding we've been dreaming of without making people sick (hopefully). We're putting the safety of our family before ourselves and at the end of the day, we're still getting married. We've been together for 7 years so I can wait one more. I think it will be worth it and far less stressful.

I am 100% in the same boat. I postponed from 12 December 2020 to 12 December 2021 and I lost all motivation and am now even considering a small, intimate wedding with just the immediate family.

I personally don’t know if I will ever feel quite as excited about the wedding as I did pre-postponement but I am trying to regain that excitement by going over our details again and immersing myself back in the planning process.

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Thank you for the advice. Yes, I also know people who got engaged way after me and now will be married before me. I never wanted a long engagement. It's definitely frustrating, but I just hope we can still have the day we planned.

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I'm sure you will! Just take it day by day.

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I hope you have the beautiful day you deserve next year!