Postponing again 🙂

I couldn’t do it again. We also had an April wedding (in Virginia) and we pushed it to September with all our vendors. Holding our breath to see if I’m inviting 50 people or full guest list of 100.


If I had to, I’d have a small ceremony 10 people or less. Mentally I can’t handle postponing twice.
If you have to, I’d suggest colder temp months, since viruses don’t thrive well in those circumstances.

We’re in October and sticking with it. The only way we’ll postpone is if the venue closes/cancels. Otherwise we’re rolling ahead. My guess is that things won’t be too “normal” by March/April either. So, in our situation, it didn’t make sense for us to move from our October date to the next uncertain date in 2021, just because.

If I was you I would postpone accordance to my state and depending on CDC. If your state is not in good accordance then yes its only right to postpone ,better safe then being in a situation unknown.

View Quoted Comment I agree! We invited 65 guests. But we’ll gladly do something smaller if needed. But, there’s no way I’d postpone twice. Best wishes!

Girl, I feel you! I am a June bride (in Los Angeles), and I haven't even picked a new date yet! I am waiting to see what dates are still available in 2020. Ideally, September would be nice.

The way I see it, if I'm able to schedule something later this year like Sept/Oct, I will just go ahead and move forward with it, and whoever comes comes. I actually had already picked a date in July, then in August, then I wanted to just move it to June 2021, but the venue didn't have June 20, 2021 available. Getting married on June 20, 2020 and having that be my anniversary date is very special to me, so just last week, FH and I decided we are going to get legally married on June 20, and then have our full wedding later this year or next. But honestly, I am so ready to just get it over with lol. So I would much rather just have the wedding in 2020.

I also haven't had my bridal shower yet or even my bachelorette! I am thinking that a bridal shower is probably more likely to happen than a bachelorette party which I'm sad about, but I decided that even if it's after the wedding, I could just make it a fun girls trip. Well, regardless, a bachelorette would be after I'm already married since we are getting legally married on June 20.

We were originally 5/24/2020 and mid April moved it to October 18. We agreed no matter what it looks like we'll just get married and move on. I just can't deal with another postponement. His family is in LA and we're in NY so really praying they can get here. I was already pretty laid back about the whole planning thing but now I'm like, just get me in a dress, take a few pictures, and have the important people there. Anything else will be a bonus. Both my bridal shower and bachelorette were virtual with promises that we'd do the real deal at some point with a girls trip and a bridal shower. I doubt it will happen, but at this point, I just want to be back to some sort of normalcy in real life and get married.

I know a few people who have kept their September/October dates for this year and will just bite the bullet and cut their guest list down if need be. But it is entirely up to you and how you feel about everything!

I’d hate for you to have to postpone yet again. I say keep 100 guests but postpone to 2021. 😔

If 75 is the lowest you can go and you really want a bridal shower, I'd postpone to next year. Good luck!

I wouldn't postpone again. Maryland is already entering phase 1 and by August I think a 75 person party will be ok. You would actually probably get to 65 with no-shows or last min. issues. I just wouldn't be able to take another postponement.

But If you fell it's best than I understand.

We were 4-18-20 but had a small ceremony of 20. We pushed our original ceremony to 9-12-20 but just decided to postpone it until 4-3-21. Which will be our 1 year anniversary. We didn't use any of our original wedding stuff but we used my bridal shower arrangements instead. I am determine to wear my dress and besides all our stuff is paid for. Good Luck to whatever you chose to do.....

We are in MA and the Governor is not opening anything back up fast enough. 2 weeks ago the venue called and said we had to postpone my daughters June 20th wedding. The venue only had a Saturday in October or a Saturday in May of next year left. October in MA is so beautiful, but MA is opening so slowly and my daughter just couldn't hold her breath waiting and wondering if she would be canceled again and then have no Saturdays left to choose from. We went with the May date. Hopefully she can also have the bridal shower that also got canceled.

Sad part is a lot of her RSVPs had already come back with yes they would attend.

But if you decide to cancel again, check with your state and if it is iffy, I would just put it off till next year and then you can relax (at least for a few months) Good luck

Hi DeLarrah! It's such an impossible decision to make when we have no idea what this fall or next spring is going to be like. Right now I think all we can do is accept that weddings might look a little different for the foreseeable future (examples here: What Will Weddings Be Like After COVID Restrictions are Lifted?) and figure out what your top priority and ultimate deciding factor is!

For reference you can also check out these convos to see how fall & spring couples are feeling:

October 2020 wedding, November 2020 , 2021 brides, Any nervous 2021 brides?

Hi DeLarrah!

I live in Northern VA & our wedding is in Hyattsville. We went fro August 2, to Oct 4 & decided at the beginning of this month. We had some difficulty with some groomsmen & not being able to get fitted for tuxes (a few of them) & only a few of my BMs had ordered their dress at the beginning of the year & David's Bridal had shipping estimates of arrivals at the end of August. It was hard at first, but its gotten easier as time goes. We are still very hopeful for October. Right now our guest list is approx 170, but we will make cuts of necessary.

You may be alright for August in MD, I think. If you can stand it, maybe wait until June & make your final decision.

Best of wishes to you!

We were originally 3/22/2020, but had to postpone 5 days out because that's right when coronavirus hit LA. We postponed to August 9th based on our vendors advice, but just decided to postpone again. We're trying to postpone to mid-March (our venue is only letting us postpone one year out from our original date, which is unfortunate). I'm with everyone who said postponing again is painful. I wanted to just cancel (I actually just wanted to cancel after it didn't work out the first time around) but I know my FH really wants the big wedding, so I'm trying to grin & bear it. If I were you, I would postpone as far away as possible. Two of my FH's sisters actually caught coronavirus when they flew out for our original wedding (before it was canceled). This isn't some super "what if", "it will never happen to us" situation. That's what we thought, and one of them ended up in the hospital because of it. Truly - it's better to postpone than to deal with the grief and guilt of watching someone get sick because of your wedding. I know it's hard - but there are even harder situations.

Hello,

I had to postpone all of it for 2021. Original date was October 23rd 2020, but the size of my guest (350) there is not way i am able to have it this year, according to the Venue not risking it. We set a new day for 5-8-21. I will still be getting married in October, immediate fam only. I want to be able to do all the fun stuff and this year i see that not happening, to tell you i have not even gone dress shopping lol

Everything will work its way around, if you decide to have it this year or wait until next year. Good luck!

Given Oct/Nov 2020 or Mar/Apr 2021, I would definitely go with Spring 2021. There will likely still be restrictions in place this fall, its highly unlikely a vaccine will exist then, and indoor venues and times of year where people are indoors will continue to be more problematic then warmer weather when people can get outdoors. I'd opt for April 2021 if that's available to you. Also if you want a wedding as close to "normal" as possible without social distancing restrictions, more time is your friend. Just because weddings may be allowed this year doesn't mean they will look or feel the way we expect them to.

I was originally May 30 in upstate NY and postponed to Aug 22. No matter what we are getting married on this date! Our backup plan is to rent a tent in the backyard, but still get all dressed up. We are in our 30s, and want to have kids and overall celebrate and move on with our lives. In NY right now gatherings of 10 are allowed, and outdoor dining is going to be allowed in the next 1-2 weeks at 50% capacity. Is your reception indoors vs outdoors? We have just under 100 people coming and that would put us at 50% of our venue’s capacity. Fingers crossed this virus gets weaker over the summer. This is all filled with so much uncertainty I’m sorry you’re going through this. I don’t think there is really a right or wrong answer here, it just depends on how flexible you are with what your big day looks like. If you want your full on dream wedding I would do 2021 - but if you are ok with changes I would stick with August. Good luck to you I hope your day is beautiful

We were supposed to be today, then we pushed to August and then pushed again to June 2021. For us it was just easier, that way everyone would be a bit more comfortable and at ease. We want people to come and have a good time and not look at anyone funny! Good luck to you Miss Lady!

OMG I commend you for being willing to postpone a second time. We moved from a March to a June and just found out the city of Hilton Head will not renew our beach permit... this absolutely saddens me ; however I refuse to reschedule, we are moving everything to the deck and it's going to be what it be... #13daysandcounting

Good luck with rescheduling and congratulations...