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Postponing for a Year? Due to covid 19 - Advice?

Nicole, on April 2, 2020 at 2:25 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 6

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My Fiance and I are in a bind and are already struggling with our popular wedding venue on a new date here in 2020 let alone finding one with all our vendors in 2021.

Our original wedding date is supposed to be 6/6/2020 but I all of my family will be coming from the UK and I do not see this ending anytime soon to have them join us and I cannot imagine not having them here with us. 2 of my bridesmaids are also my cousins coming from the UK. We currently have the venue on hold for July 31, 2020 but I still am afraid that it is not enough time, Especially since Illinois just went on additional Stay in Place orders until the end of April.

We are highly considering moving our dates to 2021 but I am struggling to find a date with the venue and also with all my vendors that will match up. As well as the potential to lose money on deposits and have to find new vendors if ours are not accommodating or unavailable on the new date.

How do you approach this with vendors? How do you make sure you don't lose all the money you paid so that you can possibly even have a new wedding? What is the best way to manage all this?

I am also struggling with the concept of having to tell our families about the decision to postpone an entire year - my family in the UK will completely understand and be greatful but since they are all I have an most of my fiances family and our friends are in the US I am not sure that they will. I feel that I will get some backlash for postponing an entire year and not just a few months - as we have been planning for over a year and a half.

Especially from a my fiances mother, stepdad and grandma who recently moved to florida and have plane tickets to come up for the bridal shower in May and the wedding and June and they would have to deal with all their flights.

I just want to make the right decision for me and my fiance and still have the wedding of our dreams and the wedding we can remember as a happy time and not one ruined by the coronavirus, keep everyone safe but also have everyone understand.

Please any advice???

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Latest activity by Amy, on April 9, 2020 at 12:42 PM

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Lunajay · on April 2, 2020 at 2:37 PM
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We went ahead and postponed ours for next year. I would say to reschedule for next year. Since most vendors and venues have already spoke to so many people about this, I would think that it would be easier to talk to them. Get all the available dates and see which ones work for y'all and your vendors.

Good Luck and Best Wishes
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Kimberly · on April 2, 2020 at 2:37 PM
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I would think family and friends should all understand the need to postpone. Sure having to postpone a year out isn’t ideal, but considering many of your guests have to travel having the extra time to allow for finances to get back on track is a good thing. Don’t worry about how to tell your FH’s family. I think they will understand. And if they are snotty about it that’s on them. You need to do what’s best for you and FH and what you feel is best for all those involved. Your guests health and safety is the top priority.
Good luck!!
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Rebecca · on April 2, 2020 at 5:15 PM
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We postponed our wedding (originally June 19, 2020) to June 25, 2021. We had and will have a Friday date (our preference), so it made it a lot easier with our vendors. I was fortunate that we have not and will not lose any money and everything transferred with no issues.
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Nicole · on April 2, 2020 at 6:05 PM
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Thanks - I just have struggled and cried over this for weeks on what to do and when to postpone till hoping that July would be enough but I just don't see that happening.
I also am struggling with how to tell everyone since our invites for the original date just went out only a few weeks ago with a return date of April 25th so we only have few back so far and most are Accepted - so it makes me feel even worse that people are hopeful and we are making such a change.
But I just cant trust things to not change again in the landscape and the outlook doesnt look like we have even hit the peak - I dont want to wait too long and not have any options if we are then forced to cancel!
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Nicole · on April 2, 2020 at 6:06 PM
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Thanks, I appreciate the advice - right now trying to find everyone's shared availability is proving to be harder than I thought it would be with so many people out there postponing right now.
Appreciate the advice!
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Amy · on April 9, 2020 at 12:42 PM
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Hi Nicole,
I agree with the previous comments. You have to do what's best for YOU.
This is such a tough time for most people for a variety of reasons. Unfortunately, with weddings (and in life), you'll never be able to please everyone. It's a sad fact. You'll have to move forward as best you can with the information that's available to you now.
WeddingWire has created resources that may be helpful as you navigate the postponement process: Our COVID-19 Weddings Advice Guide. These two articles may be worth a quick look while you weigh your options:
- What to Do About Your Wedding During the Coronavirus Pandemic
- You’ve Decided to Postpone Your Wedding. Now What?
I'm wishing you the best of luck!
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