Postponing until 2022?

My fiance and I postponed from July 2020 to July 2022. Limited venue availability for 2021 and COVID uncertainty were the deciding factors.

We haven’t quite decided, but if our postponed date of May 2021 can’t proceed, I think me and the fiancé will still go to Jamaica, transfer our wedding deposit to our room and elope. Maybe have my mom, MOH and the best man there. I just don’t want to postpone again. Once May arrives, it will be 3.5 years since we got engaged and 3 years of planning, that’s too long lol

View Quoted Comment My engagement was supposed to be just over a year, and now with postponing to 2022, it'll end up being 3 years for us as well. I agree that it's way too long!! Hoping May 2021 works out for you!

My fiancé & I just confirmed our September 2021 date (got engaged this year). We’re going full steam ahead but with back up plans from the get go. I’ve been the more nervous one & suggested 2022 initially, but my partner really wanted to be married sooner. However—the backup plan right now is to get married in 2021 & do a one-year reception, maybe with vow renewal, in 2022.

Honestly I think that’s smart. Totally sucks that you have to wait but at least you can plan your day having peace of mind this virus should be long gone by then. After everything I went through to get married this year, I’m so jealous of anyone who still has the promise of a normal wedding! Good luck

I'm so torn trying to make a decision. We are supposed to be getting married in December but not knowing what restrictions will be is nerve racking. And we really don't want to wait another year. Just have no idea when to postpone it too if we end up taking that road. *sigh

I've been engaged for a few years now and our wedding date was supposed to be June 2020 for our 10 year anniversary, obviously we postponed. Got a new venue for June 2021, but now we're highly considering pushing back another year to June 2022. I realized I wasn't even excited for it anymore because if we do it 2021, it might not even be what we want. We'll have to cut the guestlist down and require masks. Why pay all that money for something that isn't exactly what we want. Plus my mom is the most important person and she's high risk, and I will never risk her health for my wedding. I was so depressed after postponing the first time, but this time I around, I actually feel better postponing to 2022. Still sucks, but we're together regardless.

View Quoted Comment That’s the general feeling I’m getting from a lot of brides that are waiting until 2022, I think the hope is that 2021 will see some positive changes for this whole situation, but waiting until 2022 will give us a better idea of what to expect and how things will be looking. If we are still dealing with Covid on this type of level in 2022, that will be ridiculous. I’m optimistic that things will be more stable by then. I think you made the right choice! 💕💕💕

Our wedding is March 13, 2021 and will go on as planned. We have also had it planned as small and intimate so we haven’t had to worry about cutting the guest list. Our total invite list is 43 with about 36 expected. We may have to provide masks but we will make that decision as we get a little closer.

I got engaged to my better half in July 2020. and after seeing the couples who are having a hard time with 2020 weddings due to the corona virus we decided to push it back to April of 2022. I wanted a spring wedding and it gives us time to plan, save and have first pick of vendors

We got engaged March 2019, planned for a longer engagement and to get married May 2021. But we did end up deciding to postpone to March 2022. So that’ll be three years engaged, which isn’t what I imagined... but I can imagine we will all have a lot more fun if there is no worry about the virus by then.

View Quoted Comment I agree with you 100%. We decided to wait until June of 2022 to get married for those exact same reasons. I think by 2022 we’ll have a better understanding of this thing and we’ll hopefully be able to go back to a lot of “normal” things, especially weddings. ☺️

When we got engaged, we sat down and talked about our date and decided on waiting till January of 2022. We have so many friends that have had to downsize their weddings last minute because of COVID, and we aren't wanting to risk the same with ours if we decided on 2021. We want everyone to be able to attend, so 2022 it is! Just means extra time to plan and save up money!

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I am May 2021 as well, I got engaged in April of 2019 and right away decided to do 2021. I am now scared at the end of 2020 that we won't be able to get married in May of 2021. I just think its so crazy that this is even happening. I live in NY and we aren't allowed to have a cocktail hour at my venue and there is no dancing on the dance floor. You can only have 50 guests and everyone has to wear a mask and social distance. I am seriously thinking about postponing my wedding to May of 2022. Anyone else feeling the same or experiencing the same in their state?

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Hi, Alexis! I agree with you, this whole situation has definitely gone on longer and more extreme than I thought it would when this all started. I know a total of 4 people that had to postpone their 2020 weddings to 2021. One of my friends is also getting married in May 2021 in Kansas City. She said the wedding is still on regardless of what happens between now and then because she is just tired of waiting and having to stress about another possible postponement. If you find yourself stressing about whether or not your wedding will play out the way you envisioned, then I don't think postponing to 2022 is a bad idea. To be honest, there are times where even I wonder what the state of things will look like by my wedding of June 2022. I am keeping hope that 2021 sees a lot of positive turn arounds. I can't believe how many people have gone through so much stress with their weddings and I feel so terrible, this is not what we all planned for when we planned our weddings or got engaged. I say do what is right for you and what will make you feel more at ease. Hang in there!

Hey Rachel!

Thank you so much for your kind words, insight and advise! I am considering postponing to May 2022 even though my wedding is still 7 months away which, blows my mind because I don't think things will even be okay by then. Will see what happen. I am trying to stay hopeful but fear I will have to postpone. Thank you!!

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Of course! I am finding that some 2021 brides are postponing again to 2022 as well. It doesn't surprise me at all and it's unfortunate! The way I see it is... your wedding should be the happiest day of your life. If you feel like some of your happiness is being taken away by stress with your 2021 wedding, then 2022 might be a better option. It's ultimately up to you and considering how crazy strict NY is being right now (ugh), I would be considering that option as well if I were you. I hate stress and I worry a lot as it is so I try to keep it at bay as much as possible, so I totally get it! I think we will see things gradually turn around next year but who can say how fast that'll happen... sooooo unfair!

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This will be my first time postponing and I am getting so much anxiety from thinking about it. I too, am a worrier and get a lot of anxiety on a regular day so this is making me worry a lot. Yes, NY (right now) has such strict rules its crazy. I couldn't believe when my wedding venue told me that we are not allowed to have a cocktail hour after our ceremony and there is no dancing allowed, only father daughter dance and bride and groom first dance. I was like WHAT?!?! Its so crazy. I am not okay with these rules so if they don't change by the new year, I am going to postpone. I don't think 2022 brides will have a problem since hopefully a vaccine will be out by the middle of 2021 and those getting married in middle to end of 2022 should most likely be fine. I wouldn't stress 2022 but people called me crazy when 2020 started and I already wanted to change my 2021 date but I was like um I am just being cautious lol.

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Girl, don't even get me started on the commentary from other people. When my fiance and I became engaged earlier this year (after Covid started), I had sooo many people say, "2022 is so far away!" or "Why not a 2021 wedding?" Ummmm, did everyone suddenly forget that there's a pandemic going on? Plus, I wanted to respect the 2021 brides that had to postpone and not try and snag up a possible venue date or vendors that they might need instead of me. 2022 just seemed like the right thing to do. All I can say is, if we are STILL dealing with Covid in this capacity in 2022, there's a major problem going on there. My hope is... worst case scenario Covid still is around at all by 2022, we'll have better and more relaxed regulations surrounding it. 2020 unfortunately was the year where we didn't know what we were dealing with and the measures taken were extreme in order to try and contain and understand this whole thing. Things have to start turning around next year or people are going to lose it - especially us brides!!!

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Yes girl! lol I got engaged in April of 2019 and people were like of you should have a 2020 wedding. Mind you covid wasn't around then and Idk what it was but something told me not to do 2020 and to do 2021. I don't even know what to call it but something was telling me to skip 2020 and do 2021. And now covid happened in 2020 and I am here with my 2021 date still freaking out lol. All I can say is I agree with you, if covid is still a big thing in 2022 then we have really big problems but at least the restrictions won't be as bad as they are now! I am hoping things turn around by the end of the year but it is very doubtful so I may end up being a 2022 bride. I really loved the sound of 2021 but 2022 will have to do if that is what will be. I will be engaged for three years instead of two but there are worst things to happen, at least we have our health!