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Alyssa
Just Said Yes October 2023

Postponing Wedding to 2022

Alyssa, on February 13, 2021 at 2:06 PM Posted in Planning 0 6
Hey everyone
My wedding is currently set for October of this year. With the way things are going, we’re considering postponing to October of next year. Even if the vaccines are more available then, they don’t know a ton about how long they’re effective for and from what I’ve heard it sounds like they’re better at keeping covid from getting bad when you get it than actually preventing getting it in the first place. I’m high risk and my dad and nana are too. My photographer goes to parties and stuff all the time with no mask on, my fiancé’s family doesn’t believe in covid, and some of my friends and family don’t either. I don’t want to have to worry about making sure that everyone stays far apart and wears masks the whole time. On top of that, in general, I feel like it’ll make me feel very tense having to keep up with it and I’ll be worried afterward about if I or someone I love will get sick. I feel like I’ll be sad if no one can hug and I don’t know how food distribution/eating would work. I don’t see any way to have a honeymoon safely enough and still being able to do anything we wanted to do (we were just planning on going to Gatlinburg). When I’ve posted about all this other places, people have sort of acted like I should just be happy to be getting married (one person was like do you want to get married or do you want a wedding) and I am, but when I can’t even elope without having to worry about covid, it’s hard to still want to have a ceremony this year. I’m extremely sad about the thought of pushing it to next year. I just don’t know what to do and I feel all kinds of guilty. Our venue doesn’t do any refunds, if we want to reschedule we have to do it 6 months in advance and pay am extra $400. If we try to reschedule within 6 months it isn’t allowed, so we have to decide within the next couple months if we want to postpone.

6 Comments

Latest activity by Zara, on March 28, 2021 at 3:07 PM
  • Ava
    VIP May 2022
    Ava ·
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    As sad and unfortunate as it is to think about postponing another year, just from reading your post it sounds like in your heart that is what you know you should do. From what you have just described, having a wedding this year is going to be stressful and disappointing for you (and not to mention potentially harmful since you are high risk!). Don’t worry about what other people say or about their expectations. It is OK to want to have a wedding and that doesn’t make you a selfish person! If postponing your wedding for a year will give you peace of mind and the ability to enjoy your special day, then go for it! This is a trick my mom always told me to do: Close your eyes and imagine that your wedding has been postponed to 2022. Do you feel relieved? If so, that is your answer.
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  • Eri
    Super October 2020
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    I agree with Ava. 💕


    As someone who got married last year in a very different way than I originally imagined, and had a lot of anxiety about it before and after: postpone.
    Fortunately, we were able to take a lot of precautions, no one got sick, and everything went well overall — but I couldn’t relax for weeks.
    If we hadn’t had our small wedding, we would’ve postponed to 2022 ourselves.
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  • Sharonda
    Super January 2021
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    I agree with Ava and Eri. Sounds like you know what you need and want to do. Just do it. Despite what others may think about it, if it gets you peace of mind, it’s the right decision.
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  • Tee
    Dedicated October 2021
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    Agree with the previous posters. You know what’s a better fit for you. I hope a wedding next year is closer to what you’re dreaming of! Best of luck 💓
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  • Alyssa
    Just Said Yes October 2023
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    Thank you so so much
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    Awww I wish you the best of luck.
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