Postponing??? Will 2021 or 2022 really be better??

10/10/2020 bride here too! I love your post most so much!! I feel like we have similar wedding situations so reading your post has actually made me feel a lot better about my wedding. I'm also having a smaller guest count (less than 50, which was planned even before covid), and I'm pretty much done with planning besides the little things. My venue is still closed though, so I'm really hoping they open soon. We have been engaged for 1.5 years now too and have been together for 10 years! So our date is really special to us with the whole "10" thing haha. And both my FH and I love numbers and patterns. Also October and the fall season is my favorite. So postponing has been talked about, but I feel like 2021 or 2022 won't be really that much better until there is a vaccine and who knows how long that could take.

I'm so sorry about all the uncertainty that has happened with you and your FH. Loved ones passing are never easy, but I hope you remember all the fond memories with them. I'm glad you have that family and friends support system.

I totally agree that there is no "perfect" time to have a wedding especially what's happening right now. People will adapt to this "new normal" and the only thing that counts is marrying the love of your life.

I'm no medical expert, but based on trends in the past with other similar viruses like SARS and MERS (which are similar to covid-19) there are generally 2 bad "seasons" of the virus, and then it dies down. My guess is that it will lessen a bit this summer, come back with a vengeance during cold and flu season for the end of 2020 and beginning of 2021, and then all but disappear by summer 2021.

Again, no medical expert, just my opinion and speculation!

I'm also 10/10 and we were planning a big wedding with over 200 people... I was really optimistic that everything would clear up by then, but the longer this goes on, the more I read, and the more I think about it, I'm getting more and more discouraged. I have no idea what to do and I wish someone would just tell me. At this point, I think I would rather just get married in the woods with my dog and like 2 people lol. But I agree, the thought of pushing it back makes me groan. I don't want to draw this out any longer! There is no telling if things will get better, and even if COVID goes away, who is to say something else wouldn't be happening in my personal life that makes it a bad time? But I feel like even if we do have to cancel the big wedding, I would be okay with it because what really matters is the marriage between me and my fiance and everything else is just a bonus.

Thanks for sharing this. This is so uplifting!

I am optimistic we will have a vaccine at the beginning of 2021 (and emergency use end of the year). Also, its appearing there is an immunity once you get it (no one knows how long it is yet), and people are hoping its a few years like other coronaviruses (which could slow it but may take another "cycle"). Fall may be bad for a second wave and even if weddings are held, there still might have to be social distancing at weddings in the fall (limited/no dancing, spread out tables, limited guests allowed in). I also am not sure I would want to travel to a wedding in 2020 considering the circumstances. I feel better about 2021 or 2022.

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much for the lovely reply (and I love our similarities). I think the irony of “perfect 10” during all of this wedding imperfection makes the date even more meaningful. I guess I needed to feel more concrete in the decision to move forward with our plans during this current uncertainty versus future uncertainty.


Friends of ours were getting married in September. So it was fun having a another bride to check in on and chat about wedding planning. Then COVID hit and that became a new topic, but we both planned to keep moving forward. Well last week they decided to postpone until March 2021. I think hearing their news hit me and (for the first time) made me question whether we should think more about postponing too. But their wedding is a little different than ours with many more guests and other factors. So that was the right decision for them. But FH and I have to make the right decision for ourselves. So I guess the exciting thing is that we now have a wedding to attend in 2021. 🙃
Best wishes with your wedding, 10/10/20 twin!!!!

View Quoted Comment Yep! I believe it will definitely return. All the uncertainty is the worst part now and in 2021. So, in the meantime, we’re going to go forward until we’re made to do otherwise. At that point our plan B will go into effect.

View Quoted Comment Yes! That’s exactly the point… The MARRIAGE is what’s most important in all of this. I think that the only good thing that COVID is doing is opening peoples’ eyes to what’s really important.


I do understand how having a bigger guest count can increase the stress. But, for me, I couldn’t allow it to take up any space in my mind any longer. So I needed to make a decision and stick to it, unless the state or venue says that we can’t.
Best wishes and I hope we get to celebrate our 10/10/20 weddings as planned!

View Quoted Comment Thank you!!! Congrats to you... did you get married on the 16th?

View Quoted Comment All of the uncertainty and predictions in the news make my head spin. 🤪 Lol! The mental teetering wasn’t productive. So we had to calm the craziness, make a decision and stick with it until we’re made to do otherwise. If that happens, then we’ll implement our Plan B.

I’m getting married on the same date and I feel the EXACT same!
I’m actually feeling more optimistic because the states are opening up faster than I thought they would 😂 hopefully they won’t have to close back up, but I’m getting married in Northern California where there’s only a few cases. Even though there will be about 175 guests, I am very okay with guests wearing face masks if they will feel more comfortable doing so.

The most important thing is that my fiancé and I are getting married! If not everybody can celebrate with us, I still plan to have my caterer, hair and MUA for my fiancé and me 😂😂😂

View Quoted Comment That’s really all you can do! Good luck, I hope it all works out for you.

View Quoted Comment You're welcome! And yes we did 😍

Although I just postponed from July to next May, I wanted to come on and say that I think you are right to just keep monitoring and plugging away. I think you will have the benefit of seeing how these July, August, September, etc weddings go so you can make a decision on what is best for you. One of the factors that has me postponing from July is that there haven't really been any "normal" weddings I've seen documented so we can see how they go, if people have to wear masks, etc. I think people are going to be starting to try those maybe later June into July. There is just too much unknown for my date and I really don't want to be one of the "first" trying to figure this out. I am not sure if 2021 will be any better, but I'm betting we will have a lot more information in the coming months so we can all have a better idea of how weddings will go and what adjustments will be needed. Best of luck to you!

Omg this is EXACTLY how i feel! We have been engaged for 2.5 years and were supposed to be married in June but i pushed it to August. Everyone around me is rescheduling for 2021 but I am scared if I move it and this ALLLL restarts again next winter is it even going to be worth the move and added stress? I am holding out hope for all the summer and fall weddings this year and I agree its best to just be positive, though some of the forums on here really give me anxiety sometimes. So thank you for being a breath of fresh air for me lol, best of luck to you!

View Quoted Comment Hey date twin! Yes.... the other day I was thinking of having custom wedding face masks on hand. I also wonder whether all be fast opening that’s happening will have a negative affect. But hopefully not. Best wishes!

View Quoted Comment Thank you!!!!

View Quoted Comment I do agree that in 2021, there will be more information, since there seems to be something new about the virus learned every day. We just finally had to make a decision, roll with it and see if outside factors caused us to have to postpone. I’ve also thought of having custom wedding masks on hand too. I’m totally fine with that our wedding since masks are the “new norm” fashion these days! 😉 Best wishes with your wedding next May!

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much! I actually slowed down with looking on these forms because it turned into such doom and gloom. I realize what’s going on in the world. But the posts were becoming completely depressing. I felt bad for all of the happy newly engaged brides who joyfully came onto the WW forums, only to find dark clouds.


I can’t dwell in negativity, and we can only run so far from the unknown. So, it felt better to stand solidly on our date, keep moving forward and see what happens. In these types of situations (ever since I was a kid) my mom has always said, “We’ll cross that bridge when we come to it”. And that’s exactly how I feel. So we will implement our Plan B if it comes to that.
Best wishes on your August wedding!

I’m a 10/10/20 Bride too. I’m sorry to hear about your family and friends passing. My FH and I will not change our wedding date; instead our Plan B is to have a private ceremony on that date. We will postpone our reception for a later date. We have come up with a decision timeline and based on the current status of COVID19, we will decide our next moves. Texas is reopening and allowing gatherings but not more than 25% capacity. For example, on July 18 if that restriction is still in place , we will reduce our guest list. By August 22, if a second wave is still predicted, we will move to Plan B and move the reception to a later date. I was a nervous reck until we started planning this way.