Just a recent thought....
Our wedding is fully booked and planned for 10/10/20 and we have not made any moves toward postponing it (besides having an emergency Plan B in mind to still get married on our wedding date and have the celebration we planned later — no more than 6 months out). Thankfully we don’t have bridesmaids or groomsmen and we only invited 65 of our closest family and friends, who we regularly communicate and interact with. So, if needed, updating our guests will be easy.
However, the more I think about a Plan B, the more I wonder how much better 2021 (or even 2022) will really be. I don’t think it’s worth us hitting the pause button on the wedding and pushing everything to a new date that is just as unpredictable as 10/10/20. I’ve seen on here where brides postponed their March wedding to July, and are now considering pushing it back again. When I think about that “date hopping”... I just don’t desire to do it.
We’re all receiving the same news with multiple different pandemic predictions of either… 1.) Another wave in the fall/winter or.... 2.) a “burnout” of the virus in the summer with smaller waves of it for years or..... 3.) This pandemic continuing through the end of 2022 or.... 4.) whatever other uncertain prediction is being tossed around. But regardless, the common denominator is that it’s not completely going away anytime soon. Given that, I don’t know if postponing to 2021 or 2022 is really a better option (for us). We’ve already been engaged for a year and a half. So I know it would be upsetting to postpone everything, only to be in the same exact wedding planning fiasco all over again in 2021 or 2022.
Even before the pandemic I wasn’t the type who was stressed about the wedding or was stuck on having, “the perfect fairytale wedding of my dreams“ because I knew the day was going to be wonderful regardless. But that’s because FH and I view the wedding as a time to share our union and express our vows in the presence of our close family and friends. These are the family/friends who will ultimately be our support system and also hold us accountable to our vows throughout the marriage. Then the reception celebration is just a way to party and thank our guests for attending and participating in our special day.
So with that in mind (and the current state of the world), we will move forward with our wedding within the state guidelines, share the special day with family and friends and have a great time.... even if 100% of our invited guests can’t come (the venue is already going to live stream our ceremony for those who can’t attend anyway). So, at this point, the only way we would postpone is if the venue decides they’re going to be closed.
I guess I feel this way because, sadly, my sister passed away from pancreatic cancer a month after FH proposed. One of FH’s good friends took his own life in September and another friend died in a motorcycle accident 3 weeks ago. Unfortunately, neither of them will be able to attend our wedding. So, waiting for the “perfect“ time to have the “perfect” wedding in an imperfect world (especially now) will NEVER come.
Therefore, today I’ve pushed our Plan B even farther to the back of my mind because thinking of 2021 or 2022 doesn’t make me feel any more confident than I do right now. So, unless our venue informs us that they will be closed, the wedding we’ve planned will occur on 10/10/20 (our “Perfect 10” date) 😉
*(If you read this long post, you are so sweet. I mainly typed it up as a personal way of getting my thoughts out and letting go of the negative “whisper” in my mind about postponing)
