Pot Luck Reception

I think it's appropriate. I thought of doing the same thing.

I was going to do one too but then one of my friends said she loves to cook and would be honored to cater for us...all she asked for was some money to buy the food with..so all and all we actually made out in the end cuz it's only going to cost about a hundred dollars for it all...we are going to have a potluck for my shower though...so basically it is what you want really...do it for you and no one else..

I hate the word tacky just because its not something you would do personally does not make it tacky. Someone stated that a pot luck should only be done for family gatherings.. well what exactly is a wedding if not a gathering of friends and family and if you know that your family would be happy to bring a fav. dish then it is completely a judgment call. Our family had done a few pot luck weddings and it has always turned out fine. Do what you want to do .. a wedding is about celebrating your love and joining your families and anyone who wants to be there to celebrate with you will be, not everyone will bring a dish but its not the cost for admission anyway.

I think all of you who are calling a pot luck "tacky" need to stop being snobs. My Fiance and I just had an unexpected baby 6 months before our wedding. Now we can't afford to feed everyone and all the decor is all second hand. Or my cousin whose husband is military and never knows til a few months ahead if he gets time off. Or a family and friends that all love to cook. Potluck is perfectly fine as long as your not greedy, picky (aside from labeling allergies or special diets), rude, or assumptive. Always provide the base and basic drinks. Out of town guests? Ask them to bring a bottle or two of wine (or some kind of drink), plates napkins, etc. Bottom line if you can afford it and are just being cheap then yeah it's tacky. If you have a good reason for it then hell the people that love you will support you no matter what and if not personally I'd tell them they don't need to be there if it's so insulting.

Yes Ashley, exactly. Some of the people on this site are so horribly snobby about pot luck receptions. I mean, just mean as cat shit. Here in the south pot lucks are looked forward to, people want to show off their best dishes. I'd rather be able to invite everyone I want to share our day with and ask them to bring dishes instead of gifts, than to cater a reception and have like, ten guests. Not everyone getting married is having a wedding paid for by daddy.

Wow, all these people worrying about how the food will taste or if a potluck style wedding is tacky. Puh-leeeze! These are your friends and family. They are supposed to love you and support you. In many cultures around the world friends and families feast together. Here in America the wedding culture is so ridiculous in terms of a black and white box on what is seemingly appropriate or inappropriate. If a family is worried about how others view their families in terms of a wedding then the wedding is about status and not coming together to celebrate a union between two people.

Most of the time home dishes are much more filling and enjoyable. Besides, think of ALL. THE. FOOD. That truly is a feast and your guests will leave full and happy. Splurge on the intertainment so your guests aren't bored. Have support with the food. This is a communal gathering after all.

I am doing a potluck wedding and have been told by everyone on here that I should not. I am an 18 year old woman planning my own wedding with a very large family. We are all very close and always do potlucks at every family event. And I agree with what Victoria had said. A wedding is a get together of friends and family to celebrate love. I find it to be completely acceptable.