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Nichole
Dedicated May 2018

Pre-elopement Party

Nichole , on February 10, 2018 at 5:58 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 6
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We're eloping. It's not a surprise and we're honest with anyone who asks. My mother has asked if she can do an engagement party, my friend wants a bachelorette party and FSIL wants to throw a shower. I told them it's not good etiquette to throw pre-wedding parties because none of the guests will be invited to the actual wedding, just the marriage celebration after we elope. Now they all seem hurt and think I'm rude for turning them down. Do I just let them throw the parties or stick with my initial answer because the consensus on every wedding related site says it's not okay to do.

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Latest activity by Adrianna, on February 10, 2018 at 12:48 PM
  • Forestwed
    Master May 2018
    Forestwed ·
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    As long as everyone is aware of your plans I don’t think it’s a problem. You’re still getting married just privately. As long as the women invited to the shower are also invited to the celebration I say do it.
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  • R
    Just Said Yes August 2018
    Ryan ·
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    Don't go with what websites say. Do what applies to you. The website says you will hurt people if you have the party, but the reverse just happened. People are now hurt because you won't have one. Clearly your situation is different from what everyone else on the web says. So if your goal is to not offend everyone, then have the pre wedding party and have a good time.
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  • Raven
    Devoted February 2019
    Raven ·
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    It seems like everyone invited to the parties, or at least throwing them, is supportive of the eloping so why not celebrate?
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  • FutureMrsR
    VIP May 2018
    FutureMrsR ·
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    It’s rude. You are foregoing these prewedding parties by eloping. Don’t let your friends convince you to be rude.
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  • Going to the chapel
    Master July 2017
    Going to the chapel ·
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    One of the consequences of eloping is not being able to have showers and bachelorette parties. I'd also forgo the engagement party since you are not inviting the guests to the wedding.

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  • Adrianna
    Expert June 2018
    Adrianna ·
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    If everyone is aware that you're eloping, there's no problem. Plus, this is a way more people can be a part of your special time.
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