Pre Wedding Anxiety

Maybe plan a wedding to more suit you, other than a "traditional" wedding. You can just have it be close friends and family, a family style seating arrangement, skip first dances or bouquet tosses. You could even do your vows in private before the ceremony. The point is, you can change anything you want to make it more you, a wedding shouldn't be stressful! Make it how you want it.

I empathize with you. I suffer from anxiety in a normal day to day life and the wedding has added to that ten fold. Try to focus on what you want and would make you happy the day of. Maybe a wedding planner to delegate tasks to can help?

I thought I was just me! Since I’ve gotten engaged I’m up all night thinking about the wedding. We aren’t getting married until next ‘23 but I feel like I should be working on something. Once we hired a coordinator my nights were so much better! She handles all the calling and planning. Definitely a weight lifted off of me. I hope it gets better!

It didn't really hit me until about 2 weeks before the wedding with final payments, final fittings, and people reaching out to me with stressful things that I probably didn't need to be told about since they were sorted without any of my help anyway, but I digress.... But I had a jolly good cry about 4 days before the wedding where I just broke down and let it all out. The pre-wedding stress is no joke, even to someone like me who usually takes on a more "que sera sera" type attitude with things out of my control. I, too, wanted to just elope and be done with it, but of course we were locked in to vendors.


It means absolutely nothing to you now, I know, but truly the wedding day flies by and then all the stress is shrugged away by the next day. In the mean time, focus on what you can do, try not to focus on things you can't do or change.

I can definitely relate. I tend to obsess about something and then lay awake at night thinking about it. I have had to cry it out on occasion just to have an emotional release. What has helped me when it becomes overwhelming is to put it away for a few days. I literally put things out of sight that I've bought for the wedding. I choose not to talk any wedding stuff with FH and avoid looking on Etsy or Pinterest or WW for a few days. It takes restraint but honestly, taking a break from wedding planning is necessary! After a day or two, I already feel better. If something comes up, I just say, "nope, I'm not thinking about that until Wednesday" or whenever. And when Wednesday comes, I can go back to my wedding to-do list with a fresh mind. Hope that helps.