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Pre wedding depression

Skylar, on May 20, 2018 at 9:42 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 6
Hi I'm a soon to be bride who feels so unprepared. No support from either mom it's a small wedding so no bridesmaid. Fh, just got laid off and I'm stressing so bad. I'm not even excited to plan or to do anything lately. I just wanna quit my job and sleep.

I've always struggled with depression but this is a totally new world.
Any tips?

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Latest activity by Nikki, on May 21, 2018 at 9:51 AM
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    Dedicated October 2018
    Brittney ·
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    I'm so sorry you are having a difficult time. If you aren't already, I would suggest seeing a therapist for your depression. Wedding planning triggered a few issues that I have dealt with in the past (anxiety and body image issues) and going to see my therapist again for a few sessions did wonders.
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  • Kim
    Devoted September 2018
    Kim ·
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    I agree with Brittney - it never hurts to have a talk with a therapist, even when things are going well.

    In the meantime, my advice is to take a deep breath and do some at home mindfulness and meditation.

    I struggle with depression myself and I find it’s triggered the most when things are happening that I have no control over. What helps me is reminding myself that I AM in charge of my happiness. I can calm myself, I can motivate myself and I can handle it. It’s a mental game that really help me keep myself in check.

    Best wishes.
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  • Katie
    Devoted September 2018
    Katie ·
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    I’m so sorry you are going through this. I have been battling depression on and off for years and wedding planning has definitely triggered it for me.

    What has been helping me is talking about it with FH and forcing me to get outside now that the weather is getting nicer. I also took a break from actually planning and instead have been going out for short runs with FH and yoga class. I have been feeling dramatically better the last few weeks which is great but now I really have to Get back to wedding planning. I’m a little nervous that I will slip back in my funk but I gotta take it one step at a time.

    If you can maybe you could take a short break too and do something kind for yourself.
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  • Lauren
    Dedicated August 2018
    Lauren ·
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    Wedding planning has triggered my anxiety and depression as well. I love my fh and am excited to marry him!! But my anxiety and depression has me super behind on all the planning and stuff. Talking it out with the fh and close friends has helped. I just had to admit I was struggling and ask others to keep me going whenever I try and shut down. Hang in there!!
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  • Smashhopp
    Savvy August 2019
    Smashhopp ·
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    I struggle with depression myself and have recently gone off my anti-depressants in hopes it may help my sex-drive (another battle I'm facing at home - the lack of desire.) Doesn't help that me and FH have been at odds lately. It's just put a screeching halt on all my wedding planning - something I was enjoying and having fun with. Having to take some time away from focusing on "the big day" and start focusing on "the bigger picture". I need to get myself in a better place mentally and emotionally so that I can be a better me for my FH and we can get our relationship on a better track and seeing better days. No doubt, I still want to marry him, but life happens. In the midst of all the happiness, something can always happen that brings you down. I don't feel a lot of support either except from a couple of my bridesmaids. My mom doesn't seem that excited and that was disheartening at first, but have since gotten used to that just being the way it's going to be. I hate that your FH got laid off at the worst time! I know it seems like the end of the world, but try find something to take your stress and aggression out. I found that I was taking everything out on my FH. I was never one to go to the gym and work out but I've found that it helps me SO much after a long stressful day. I leave feeling way better than I did when I went in. I also see a therapist just to have that non-biased person to vent to. I'm so sorry and I truly hope things get better and your situation turns around. Regardless of all the happy posts all over WW, there are a few of us who are struggling and dealing with our own battles, like you. Hugs!

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  • Nikki
    Devoted October 2018
    Nikki ·
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    You're not alone. I've been back on anti-depressants for two months now. I've always hated medications but before I started these I had no desire to do anything wedding related. It still sucks but I'm getting better so it's getting easier. A wedding is just a big party, focus on yourself for right now.
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