Pre-wedding events after marriage

I dont see a problem with it. If no one gave you a gift yet but they were planning to anyway, I dont see why they would mind. And a “bachelorette party” can just be a fun weekend with your friends instead. I think MOST people understand that Covid screwed everything up and nothings normal right now

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Yes I agree that MOST people do, but I've seen sooo many comments on post calling it "gift grabby" and "greedy", its annoying. COVID changed alot of things so I personally don't see a problem with it either!

In my opinion I think you can have those pre-wedding events anytime, even though you are already married. They are parties to celebrate you, and lots of brides were robbed of that because of COVID. Most people will understand.

I did have my bridal shower, it was in my backyard, but I never got a bachelorette party because most places are still closed. Once more places open up, I'm thinking about planning a fun weekend with just my girls and pretend it's my bachelorette party I never had, haha.

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I agree with you 100%, I think its okay after being married as well.

We are still having a bach party (combined with my two bridesmaids and his 4 groomsmen and their 2 dates) but we rented out the roller skating rink so it'll be just us! No one offered to do a bridal shower (my mom actually refused) Idk if it's because no one threw a shower or what but we haven't had a single gift bought off of our 2 registries and we are one month away. I didn't even know engagement parties were a thing so we didn't have one of those either. If we weren't planning our own bach party we wouldn't have had one either because no one offered to do it lol.

(PS I should mention that COVID guidelines in our area would have allowed for these events so that wasn't the issue)

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I wouldn't worry about the registry, I feel like that's a "traditional" thing and most people don't even buy off of the registry (at lease from what I've seen personally). I didn't have an engagement party either. My sister and bestfriend (my 2 MOH) offered and have started planning a bridal shower for me. We originally had a co-ed bach party scheduled the weekend of my husbands 30th birthday but COVID messed that up and we had to cancel. Everyone had their flights booked and everything . We are in the process of planning something for that now.

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That's the weird thing, most our guests are very traditional and expect there to be a registry. I hope your shower is super fun despite COVID! I'm sorry to hear about your bach weekend, that sucks!

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Maybe they will just give you guys money? But that is weird especially if they are traditional people. And thank you I hope you guys have fun roller skating!

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Yeah I'm not sure! I think that people are just confused because we have a 2nd reception in my hometown in January so maybe people are waiting until them to send gifts. Idk lol Thank you we are excited!

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We had a minimony at the beginning of this month and our big wedding is March 2021. For the minimony we got a few cards and some money but for the people who asked we told them just save a gift for the big wedding. And others didn't ask they planned to wait until the big one on their own. So that's definitely a possibility!

We were supposed to get married on May 30th. My bridal shower in March had to be canceled 5 days before due to COVID. We rescheduled our wedding for July 18th, at the time we never imagined that this would still be going on. July didn't happen either, and we postponed again to 10/24 but didn't make it a formal announcement.

Since my shower was canceled, we had a stop by shower outside/in our garage on May 30th, our original wedding date. It was a great way to still celebrate the day, and since everyone that was invited to the shower already had gifts, it was a nice way to see people for a few minutes and allow them to drop off the gifts.

My now husband was able to have his stag, but I had to cancel my bachelorette party. We ended up postponing our big wedding until 10/23/2021 and got married just last Friday on 10/23 so our big wedding will be on our one year anniversary. I might still have a girls night and call it my bachelorette party next year, but we'll see, since i'm also 9 weeks pregnant! (Which was part of the plan lol) We didn't want to put our lives on hold for a whole year when things are so uncertain, especially with large gatherings here in NY. So, if all goes as planned, our baby will be almost 5 months at our wedding.

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Congratulations on both your marriage and your pregnancy

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Thank you so much!!!