Hi all! I have a question about whether or not I should be upset about my maid of honor getting pregnant months before my wedding.
I got engaged over a year ago and asked one of my best friends to be my maid of honor. I was recently her maid of honor and had to sacrifice a lot of time, energy, and money to make her day everything she dreamed of - including planning her bridal shower, bachelorette party, and many of the wedding details. I had a lot going on in my personal and professional life at that time, but made many sacrifices to make sure she remained a priority. Although I asked her to be my maid of honor over a year ago, she recently told me that she and her husband are pregnant. She will be about 8 months at the time of my wedding. This is her fourth child and I have been excited for each one, but this pregnancy is a little different because her husband has been cheating on her for about a year. I was not entirely in favor of the marriage to begin with due to their underlying problems that I believe needed to be addressed, but I continued to support her anyway because she is my friend, and she was determined to make their relationship work because of their children. Importantly, she told me that she did not want to have any more children with him and had been taking contraceptives to prevent this. I suspect that she intentionally stopped taking her contraceptives to get pregnant in an attempt to save her crumbling marriage, without thinking about the consequences for herself or child. It feels selfish of me to say, but I cant help but feel that she also was not thinking about me. She was aware that I needed her help with the planning and logistics of the wedding because I do not have a planner, and also that I based the entire bridal party dresses and floral colors on her maid of honor her dress that I picked out specifically for her. All of the dresses have been ordered and paid for and are very form fitting. Additionally we planned a Caribbean bachelorette party and several other trips that she will no longer be abel to go on due to risks associated with the pregnancy. I want to be happy for her, but I feel that she got pregnant purposely for the wrong reason. I am extremely frustrated with the decisions she has been making recently, but I feel horrible bringing this up to her and am not sure how to address the situation without sounding selfish. Am I wrong?
