Pregnant MOH - I'm not selfish, I'm human.

You don't sound at all like the brides who've been told off; you seem like you're handling this very honestly and humanly. I agree with Snow ^^ that you should continue to show excitement for the pregnancy. You're both having major life events right now and that can bring you closer, for sure. Wait it out a bit to see if she can attend. Friendships that matter can accommodate and grow when things like this happen. Good luck and let us know whether she can attend!

My MOH is pregnant as well and I love her to death (like a sister to me) but was a lil annoyed at first (I admit). But she had a miscarriage before (was so depressed) and wanted a child badly and if this is the time, I would never take that joy away from her. Good thing is she is due end of June and wedding is mid August so timing works perfectly. Now we are anxiously waiting the news to see if it's a boy or girl, after all I am going to be an 'aunty'.

My other BM was pregnant but had a premie in December so every other BM better be on lock down (lol). I told them after my wedding they can freely spread their wings as they want to... (And they laugh at me when I say it) lol!

Why would you have to change your BM dresses?? I don't get that...

My MOH is preggo and we just changed her dress but same color. its ok if she stands out she IS the MOH

My MOH who is also my SIL went threw invetro and ended up being pregnant with twins all while she had my wedding in 3 months and her sisters wedding next summer. I am so happy for her and she just got her dress taken out a little bit. Her sister didn't care either because everyone is so happy, she changed her wedding date for her.

You're doing fine. You are ABSOLUTELY allowed to be upset. Vent to your FH if you have to. Two of my best friends were in this situation. I was a BM and my other friend was the MOH. She was due a week after our friends wedding. She went into labor 2 weeks before her wedding and had serious complications, to the point where we weren't sure she was going to make it. She pulled through and 3 days before the wedding, the Bride's mom altered her MOH dress (which was way too big for her now non-pregnant body). Then my friend was able to be the MOH and her 2week old baby was the flower girl. It was so precious and beautiful. The Bride and I went to see Jenna (baby) in the hospital and the first time my friend (bride) held her, she just looked at her and said, "Man, it's a good thing you're so cute, baby, because you have seriously been pissing me off!" haha

Whoa! You ladies are awesome. I go away for a weekend and come back to this! Thank you all for the understanding, and I appreciate all the advice. We found a bridesmaid dress this weekend that can be altered to allow for her growing belly. It also looks good on my other girls, that way I can keep my plan for doing my now pregnant MOH in a different color than the other girls. It was definitely a frustrating process…to find everything i want in a dress that would still accommodate pregnancy, but it got done. Makes me a little more optimistic...

View Quoted Comment Have you lost your mind. Move up her wedding for one person to be slightly more involved

I completely understand and you are 100% allowed to feel this way. Even if she is there, she may not even feel that well to fully participate and enjoy it. I know, having kids of my own already, that I wasn't feeling that physically great that close to my due dates.


I don't think you are being selfish at all for feeling this way.