Hey all, so I'm the MOH in my best friend's upcoming wedding (October 2020) and my husband is the usher. At the moment, my friend is still going forward with her wedding and she isn't downsizing (200+ guests). She's also not requiring masks. To add to this, I'll be 38 weeks pregnant at her wedding and my husband is immuno-compromised. And....her wedding is about 2 hours away from our hospital.
I've already told her that my husband can't be an usher because that would require him to come in contact with nearly all her guests, and I planned on leaving after the ceremony so we could head home to be near our hospital. However, at this point I am not comfortable with being in her wedding at all due to the high risk of COVID (my worst fear is having COVID at the end of my pregnancy and the hospital taking my baby from me for 2 weeks, or if my husband were to get it and something were to happen to him). I don't know what to tell her or how she will take it if I back out. Does this make me a terrible person/friend? I'm still planning her bachelorette party with a small group of girls (backyard and private booked events), however I'll be wearing a mask the entire time. I also got her several larger wedding gifts (her garters, champagne flutes, and cake serving set). I just feel so guilty and don't know how to go about telling her all this. I believe she knows how I feel, but I don't know how she'll take it if I completely back-out.