Pregnant moh in friend's wedding among covid - support please

As a bride, I would be sad, but completely understand the circumstances. You’re not backing out to hurt her, but for your family’s health and safety. She should want you to be safe. Good luck!

None of this makes you a terrible person or friend. Leading into having your baby, you need to do what makes the most sense for you and your husband. I would just let her know that you’ve given it a lot of thought and given the proximity to your due date and your husband’s health along with the size event she’s planning, it would be best for you not to attend.

I feel like you are not in the wrong, and she should be understanding, especially if she is your best friend. Honestly, if she doesn't, then that's on her. With that combination of COVID and that stage of pregnancy, I would pull out too.

First off congrats mom!
So I definitely agree with you not feeling comfortable for you or your husband or your child for that matter. I don’t see how the bride won’t be understanding. She is choosing to continue with her wedding during tough times. That’s her choice and I’m sure she’d understand your choice. God forbid the last thing you need is for you or your husband to catch this thing. I’m sure you’re not the only person that won’t be able to make her wedding either. I commend her for not letting anything come between her and her day, but you also have to remember that your husband and child come first as well as your own health. I would just call her up, or even send her a text. A text may help her process things better first n then followed by a phone call if she’s okay. Good luck ❤️

You are not a bad friend. You are a good mom. Congrats! While I understand you're feeling guilty (because you have empathy and obviously love your friend) I think that your friend is being a bit cavalier by not having guests wear masks. Now that's completely her decision, but it also means that she needs to therefore be understanding that certain high risk (eg pregnant) friends and loved ones cannot attend. There is so much unknown about covid-19, but they already have studies showing serious complications for the babies of mothers who have contracted covid while pregnant. Trust your instinct. It's right on. I'm so sorry you have this added stress, and that you have to make your friend sad, but if she's truly your friend, she'll not only understand but he supportive as well.

This does not make you a bad friend at all your husband has to be safe you and your baby have to be safe. I am matron of honor at my friends September wedding and I’m not immunocompromised and I’m not pregnant but I told her straight up that I intend to go but when the time comes I don’t know what’s gonna happen or how safe it’s gonna be so this is me telling you that even though I want to come I don’t know if it’s a guarantee that it’ll happen based on how conditions are when the time comes.
Because it’s kind of uncomfortable not knowing how safe things are going to be and being exposed to so many people at such a large event during this time. And she was really understanding about it she said that she totally gets it because I also have to take care of my parents and they are elderly people. So I hope that when you tell the bride she will be understanding about it

Putting the health and safety of yourself and your family above everything else makes you a normal, rational person. If your friend disagrees, she's absolutely no friend to you. Congrats on the soon-to-be little one!

Why is she going on with her 200 plus person wedding... I say your right to say something to her but to be honest I wouldn’t be surprised if she has to postpone or do something smaller.

You are most certainly not a bad friend! It sounds like you 2 are close, so she should be understanding. That all sounds very high risk for your family. I’m not even high risk, but I would not be going to a large event, especially with a couple hundred people. My wedding involves international travel, and I do have a close friend decline because she is immune compromised, even after postponing till May 2021. She made the right decision for her, and I love her no matter what. Yes I’m sad she won’t be there, but not as sad as I would be if she became sick from coming to my wedding.

Tell her you have concerns and have an in person discussion. See what she says and stay open minded. You are not wrong for wanting to pull out, but keep in mind her nerves are probably wrecked over COVID too. I’m sure it will all work out.

I would absolutely pull out of the wedding. Way too risky at this late stage of your pregnancy. You are definitely making the right decision, and I'm sure she will understand

If you were my moh, I would understand and be fine with whatever choice you make. If she were a true friend, she would understand that your child comes first and you gotta do whatever you can to protect the health of you and your family. If she doesn't understand, she's not a true friend and better off without her.

I’m in a similar situation with my MOH. I was supposed to be married in May, and we postponed to August...2 weeks before her due date. Our venue is an hour and a half from her hospital. Honestly even though she is super important to me and I love her to death, it was more important to me to get married this year than anything, so when she called to tell me she was going to try to come as a guest, but didn’t want to fully commit to being in the wedding party with everything going on, I totally understood and supported that decision. I wish she had presented it sooner honestly but I know she was nervous to tell me. I think your friend will understand and you should tell her how you’re feeling ASAP.

I would voice your concerns and feelings to the bride, I'm sure you would love to be there and wish her the best but you need to do whats best for you in this situation. I'm sure she will understand and will appreciate you giving her a heads up with some time to plan. I wish health to you and yours.