Premarital counseling

Of course they want you to use them. You're paying for their services.

Get a new counselor for couple's counseling. While counselors are supposed to be unbiased, they are still human. Also, how would you pick between them? Why should it be his over yours, or vice versa? A new counselor keeps out any bias and removes any possibility of disagreement over whose counselor to use.

I would definitely look for a new counselor that neither of you have seen before individually!

Definitely get a separate counselor so they'll be an unbiased party. Our pastor was our officiant and we had the option of getting counseling from him or someone else. We chose him because counseling through him was free and that was in our budget. I interact way more with our pastor than my husband does because I'm on the worship band and have been since before our current pastor was even at our church. My husband started going to our church when we started dating, after the pastor had been there for about 2 years. Counseling with him did go really well, but there were some times when we could both tell that the bias was present.

THIS.

I used DH's counselor ONCE, in a crisis situation wherein I was in a VERY bad place. Since no one else from her office was responding, she stepped in to keep me from harm. She then gave her office an earful and I was able to get a new counselor.

Ask them to refer you to someone, do not use your individual therapists for couples' counseling.

My partner and I did marriage councilling. We found a therapist who specializes in the Imago method. Both of us saw counselors on our own, so it was nice for the pre-marital counseling to have both a new person and a new style. I really enjoyed the Imago method and recommend it if you have a therapist in your area that offers it. The method equips you with tools to communicate with your partner, and we still use variations of the technique to talk about issues and to just check in with each other every now and then. Good luck!