Priest wants my fiancé to be confirmed?

I would meet with your priest and explain that you are a practicing Catholic and that your FH is not. My sister's husband was baptized Catholic (maybe even 1st communion) but does not attend church at all but they had a Catholic wedding with a full mass without him fully converting.

My FH is not baptized and I am a practicing Catholic and we are getting married in the Church without a mass. I would think that if you treated him as a non-Catholic, you could do what we are.

I totally get the priest's hesitation since he is technically "2/3" of the way there already. Does he have any desire to come back to the church? Now would be a great time. Otherwise, I would try contacting other priests and parishes.

Sorry but to get married in a Catholic church you BOTH have to have received the sacrament of Confirmation.

I'm a baptized Catholic, and although I'm no longer practicing, I always clarify that technically I'm still a baptized Catholic. I think that's the same case for your FH. Although it really is just labels, it means a lot for the Catholic church. Is there a reason why you really want to get married in the church if you're not a devout Catholic and don't want a mass?

Check with your Diocese website. The published policy on most is that if only one is a practicing Catholic, and the other is a Baptized Christian, or better still a Baptized Catholic , with a First Communion, then a priest will recommend that the second person take classes or study and do the Confirmation, but it is not necessary in order for a RC church wedding, and a full Mass with the sacrament can be performs for a baptized Catholic who has taken First Communion, thus knows the significance of the sacrament. One condition, has never since renounced the teachings of the church ( like Convert to Mormon or Islam.). But another Christian, or a Catholic who knows the meaning of the sacrament chosen, is okay. We had to look this up when hubby's brother raised, non churchgoer, but baptized and First Communion, wanted to marry a practicing Catholic who had moved 3 times, no home church. Their pre-cana instruction priest told them, no way without confirmation, and a period of at less 10 months. They checked two other of FSIL churches, who said fine without it. Then checked their own college priest, who said, the church you have started to attend and take instruction at, is in the same Diocese as the Catholic University. Here is the published policy of Diocese, confirmation desirable but not necessary. They went to what I believe was called the chance office of the Diocese. Who I formed their priest that he was insufficiently clear in telling them that confirmation was desirable not necessary. Overruled. They married after doing a 2 weekend retreat for premarital sessions, not that priest. Bit he married them, 4 months later. Diocese said, priest wanted delay so they did not marry for a year after contacting the church. But Diocese said, since they had time to think about things for a full year from the time they were engaged, before contacting church, then 2 sessions pc with priest, then next month the 2 retreats to finish PC, 4 months later was enough time to say they were committed and prepared for marriage. So, check your Diocese. The church also says no home or outdoor weddings. But if you can find a priest who will, or a place the Diocese accepts, you can often get permission. Priests are given a lot of leeway. But in the end, if the overall church and Diocese will support something, they can say so to a priest.

As long as both of you were baptized catholic then yes he will have to be confirmed in order to receive the sacrament of marriage in the Catholic Church. There is also a convalidation ceremony which is a blessing of sorts but this would be if your soon to be husband was never baptized in the Catholic Church. As I was once told...once baptized a Catholic, always a Catholic...you just practice or don’t.

He doesn't have to be! That's a common misconception

View Quoted Comment I want to be married in the church because I want it to be recognized as valid. I’ve always pictured myself getting married in a church, especially this one because it’s BEAUTIFUL. I also want to make my grandparents and parents happy. We mainly don’t want a mass because, as I mentioned, my FH hasn’t been practicing basically his whole life and he doesn’t want to go through the whole 2 hour mass.

View Quoted Comment Right? That’s what is making this so frustrating! It would be easier if he hadn’t been baptized!

I think it depends on the priest. I have a similar situation with my fiance. I am a practicing Catholic; he only went as far as Baptism. We will not have a Mass within the ceremony and I've made peace with that now. The priest marrying us, he's still marrying us and if my fiance wants to do RCIA in the future, he will and I will be his sponsor (even though I almost failed CCD).