Private Vows & First Look

Oh! Sorry it caused you so much anxiety but I'm happy to hear you found a solution. I think it would still be great no matter how you do it. My husband was super nervous as well but once we started everything, everyone else disappeared and he got through his without a hitch. I don't think doing it in private will take away the love your vows are attached to. Enjoy!

As long as it works for you two, that's all that matters!

We are doing the exact same thing. I didn't want to share my private words to our whole families, so right before the ceremony, we will do our private vows, and then during the ceremony, do the traditional ones.

We're doing something similar. Neither of us loves public speaking so the thought of reading something so personal in front of so many people, terrified me and I know he'd be overly anxious and nervous day of. So we're exchanging letters with "vows" and doing a private first look, then traditional vows during the ceremony.

That is a great plan. Good for you both for figuring out what works best for you!

I HATE public speaking and so does my fiancé so we're doing something similar, only difference is we'll be doing a "first touch" instead of a first look I really want the first time he see's me to be when I'm walking down the aisle, but I may change my mind because I've heard first looks really helps with nerves before the ceremony and I know I'm gonna be a wreck that day!

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Angie I love your idea- we have that planned as well although I am stuck on not seeing him. We have been living together over 5 years and have children lol We are sharing a first touch/family prayer moment with our children. We will both be standing behind the door and will join hands along with our children who will be able to see both of us. I hate public speaking, but I'm ok to show my nerves and emotions. I have seen people cry and laugh or just forget what they were going to say and just wing it-but we are human and it just made it all more special for that moment.

Marie, I am glad you acknowledged that fear. I feel society "expects" our weddings to be how they portray them in the movies- having this long heartfelt moment at the altar lol Your day you do what makes you comfortable

View Quoted Comment That sounds so sweet 🥺 I love cute, intimate moments like that before the ceremony! Especially since you both will be allll over the place come the reception

Glad you found something that worked for you. This plan sounds perfect!