My parents are paying for my entire wedding, and there was no question that they would. In our culture, the father pays for the wedding. Period. So I just kind of went along with it.
Well now everytime we have a disagreement about the wedding, no matter how trivial, my dad threatens to pull his financial support if he doesn't get his way. I know he won't because it would hurt him more than me (my FH and I can afford to pay for the wedding, but my father would have to endure cultural humiliation because of it). But it really hurts and makes me want to just pay myself.
Also the strings attached to the money were never communicated beforehand, they just pop up. My mom occasionally pulls rank too as the "host"
I let a lot of the stuff go, but some of it has been really damaging, like forcing me to invite their friends to my tiny wedding or making me invite a toxic family member to my shower or forcing me to add a girl to my BP.
Does anyone else have experience with this? I love my parents and I don't want my wedding to ruin my relationship with them